18 years ago today my dh of 16 years told me about the OW.........we were supposed to have been going out with friends but he had been acting very odd for a few days and he broke down and told me about OW. Our marriage had its ups and downs over the years, he was a drinker and I used to dread him going out to watch big rugby games with his mates but I hadn't seen this coming!!!! We didn't have any kids due to male infertility so it was just us.
I was devasted initially...........but a few weeks in I realised I was better off without him, I realised how controlling he was, how I had been walking on eggshells for years without knowing it. I felt free and I was angry at myself for not seeing what had happened to me over the years.........I divorced him for adultery.
Just 3 months later, after stating I never wanted another man in my life I met my now DH..........he was someone my brother was in school with, 4 years younger than me, a bachelor with no kids or previous serious relationships - no baggage! We shared a strong Christian faith and it just felt right .........we were married later that year and dc 1 was born before our first wedding anniversary. We now have 2 dc and life is busy.
18 years ago what felt like a "trick" actually turned my life around for the better and turned out to be a real "treat".