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What is the strangest thing a stranger has ever said to you?

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PinkWaferBiscuit · 29/10/2021 11:39

Took my almost 2 year old to the park this morning in between heavy rain showers so he could jump in puddles. When we arrived the park was empty, after about 10 minutes a women arrived with 3 children who began playing with my DS, all good and so she started to make small talk.

This is exactly how the conversation went.

Women - Awww he's a sweetheart what's his name.
Me - Thanks, his name is X. Your 3 are being so kind to include him in their game.
Her - Yeah they are great, it's good they have each other to play with. Is he an only?
Me - Yes.
Her - Oh that's sad... What happens if he dies?
Me - Errrrrrrrr (I was literally speechless)

Who the fuck thinks that's an acceptable thing to say to anyone let alone a random stranger in the park mere feet away from our kids. Confused

Anyway you may not be shocked to learn we then made a hasty retreat and that comment well and truly killed the conversation.

But it got me wondering has a stranger ever said anything even more batshit to you? Or did I meet the strangest stranger ever in our local park and should I perhaps consider moving. Grin

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RainbowConnection1 · 29/10/2021 18:16

DS2 was only a week or so old when a woman looked in the pram and asked me how old he was. I told her and then she asked if he was my first? I said no, I have an older son too. 'Never mind' she said 'you can try again for a girl'. I was like, WTF?

Staryflight445 · 29/10/2021 18:24

I once tried to make small talk with a women in the park once, her little one was in the swing next to mine and was wearing those sort of dark green trousers that have the pattern on? I can’t remember the name of them sorry. Also wearing a really boyish top and coat.
I said aww how old is he? And she sturnly looked at me and told me it was a girl and ended the conversation.

I have made so sure to not say he/she again!

BobLemon · 29/10/2021 18:31

[quote BambooWhoosh]@Cocolapew
@BobLemon

Rhyl? Bangor? Are you St David?

Barry?[/quote]
Oh how did I not guess Barry!?

Colwyn? Tenby? (I think they’d make pretty cool names!)

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Howareyouflower · 29/10/2021 18:32

I went to visit my husband in hospital today. He's in a room with four beds. All the patients are in their 70s.
I mentioned that I didn't like the way one of the men was with the young woman who came to take the orders for the meals tomorrow. She was reading out the choices to each patient and writing down what they wanted. When she got to him, he snatched her list and pen, in a very rude manner, and muttered something about not understanding her accent. My husband said that this morning the same man had a conversation with a young nurse, where he asked her if she was going out with her boyfriend tonight. She said she was going out with her friends. He leered at her and said suggestively "Your "friends" eh?". She said yes, her friends. He then asked "Are you going to be a good girl?" then "Are you going to be a VERY good girl?". She didn't know how to respond and said "We're all nice people, we will have a good time together" and he said "What exactly do you mean when you say you'll be a good girl and you'll have a nice time together?"
Luckily another nurse came in then and asked her something and she was able to escape. My husband was really disgusted with the man and said he felt embarrassed that young women should have to put up with and remain professional with obnoxious pigs like that.

Cocolapew · 29/10/2021 18:34

No but I quite fancy being called Tenby.
You need to think of a valley.

goinggently · 29/10/2021 18:38

@FreezerBird @KurtWildeWitchOfTheWoods

The Russian thing... I've had this, multiple times. About 10 years ago but not since. Interrogated at checkout and basically accused of lying! So so weird!!

GrumpySausage · 29/10/2021 18:40

Not really a stranger but my next door neighbour. We exchanged hellos if we saw each other but nothing else. I'd just had my DD an she stopped to talk to me about her and then let me know her DS was expecting a baby with his girlfriend.
Me: oh lovely, that'll be nice
Neighbour: yeah we always though he couldn't get girls pregnant cos he only has 1 ball. Twisted as a baby.
Me: oh.....well lovely. Must be going.

I didn't even know her sons name but every time I saw him pull up to visit I knew he had one ball.....

happytoday73 · 29/10/2021 18:40

@21budgies someone said the same to me years ago.. Total stranger who then walked off... Was l a Welsh seaside town... Sent shivers down me...

I also got told to 'cheer up love it might never happen' at a terrible time.. I told him why I wasn't cheery and he was mortified.. Hopefully he has learnt his lesson

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 29/10/2021 18:43

Me to 81yo very proper NDN: "we're expecting twins."

NDN: "congratulations!" Eyes up DH. "He must be a stallion, eh?"

Me and DH erm 😯

LoveFall · 29/10/2021 18:50

DH and I were on a cruise. The daily menu for the dining rooms was posted outside the dining room and people would stop to take a look.

I was unwell from a bad flare of ulcerative colitis and was on quite a lot of prednisone. My face was very puffy with the "moon face" you get on the drug. I was very self conscious about it.

I was waiting to look at the menu behind an American couple. They were loudly discussing it. When they were done, the man turned and looked at me.

He said, "Oh, you're going to have everything on the menu, I can tell."

His wife was trying to shush him.

I have to say that was one of the most uncalled for and strange comments. It upset me for days.

It was years ago and I still feel the sting. Words can really hurt.

happytoday73 · 29/10/2021 18:51

Oh and I've remembered another favourite
.. In my late 20s, older man in bar says to me... 'You have very big hands don't you... I could never go out with someone with that big hands' ... As he leers at me.... Why some men think insults are an effective chat up line is beyond me....
.... For one I had a reply...
'never mind... Lots of men wouldn't look tiny in comparison'

BobLemon · 29/10/2021 18:52

@Cocolapew

No but I quite fancy being called Tenby. You need to think of a valley.
💡

Rhonda. Another excellent name!

purplecup · 29/10/2021 18:55

Walking through a shopping centre and a lady walks up to me and screams "your c*nt stinks" and then walked off.
I could hear her screaming at other random people on her way through so I didn't take any offence to her lovely words 🤦🏼‍♀️

TillyDevon · 29/10/2021 18:58

I was helping give out hot breakfasts to homeless people in London years ago and such a friendly lady smiled at me and said ‘this is a real Harry Potter situation’. There were a lot of people with mental health problems but I loved how enthusiastic she was when she made this statement even though I had no idea exactly what she meant.

I just looked up the charity called The Passage as it was so amazing and I’m so pleased to see it’s still going strong helping rough sleepers near London Victoria.

MiniPumpkin · 29/10/2021 18:59

Worked in a supermarket aged 18, old male customer told me he’d like to take me home and keep me in a glass cabinet in his living room so he could just look at me. His comments were frequent. Now I’m 34 and we’ll my looks have faded but if he said that to me now…
I’m sure he’s in his grave now thankfully

Jacopo · 29/10/2021 19:05

It’s been a long time since I’ve heard of this happening, but in my youth if someone had asked a young woman to suck his c*ck as described by a previous poster, and similar obnoxious comments as described here, they’d have received a hard slap across the face.
We should start fighting back.

Jacopo · 29/10/2021 19:07

And as for the “cheer up” comments I applaud the posters who shouted back in great detail why they were looking miserable. Honestly I feel it’s time for women to rehearse a lot of responses like this to teach these men a lesson.

SunshineCake1 · 29/10/2021 19:11

@Howareyouflower

I went to visit my husband in hospital today. He's in a room with four beds. All the patients are in their 70s. I mentioned that I didn't like the way one of the men was with the young woman who came to take the orders for the meals tomorrow. She was reading out the choices to each patient and writing down what they wanted. When she got to him, he snatched her list and pen, in a very rude manner, and muttered something about not understanding her accent. My husband said that this morning the same man had a conversation with a young nurse, where he asked her if she was going out with her boyfriend tonight. She said she was going out with her friends. He leered at her and said suggestively "Your "friends" eh?". She said yes, her friends. He then asked "Are you going to be a good girl?" then "Are you going to be a VERY good girl?". She didn't know how to respond and said "We're all nice people, we will have a good time together" and he said "What exactly do you mean when you say you'll be a good girl and you'll have a nice time together?" Luckily another nurse came in then and asked her something and she was able to escape. My husband was really disgusted with the man and said he felt embarrassed that young women should have to put up with and remain professional with obnoxious pigs like that.
Will he tell the disgusting creep off though ?
HestersSamplerofCarrots · 29/10/2021 19:13

None of these are a patch on the woman in her 80s who insisted on sitting partially on my lap on the bus for 45 minutes into town when I was 15.

I know she was in her 80s because she told me. While dabbing her constantly watering eye. The entire bus journey.

Cheeseandlobster · 29/10/2021 19:16

@Cocolapew

No but I quite fancy being called Tenby. You need to think of a valley.
Rhonda!!! You are called Rhonda! Either that or Neath Grin
RainforestLizard · 29/10/2021 19:16

@Cocolapew

No but I quite fancy being called Tenby. You need to think of a valley.
Dulais?
tensmum1964 · 29/10/2021 19:24

Holding my 5 month daughter who had very curly white blonde hair. A woman commented on how cute she was and asked "is that her natural colour"

TheBareNecessitiesOfLife · 29/10/2021 19:25

Walking with my ex down a rural path back towards where the car was parked. A woman walking the other way made a beeline for us and said to us in a very serious but sort of knowing way that "discretion is the better part of valour". She then walked off purposefully and we were left standing and scratching our heads. Every so often it pops back into my head and I wonder what on earth she meant, it was really strange.

MadKittenWoman · 29/10/2021 19:28

I'm very small, barely 4 ' 9''. Years ago, I was at a party and some young man declared "Wow, you look just like a normal person. You have a figure and everything!" I was also informed, though not by a stranger, that I'm "too small to fuck."

wannabebetter · 29/10/2021 19:29

@Cocolapew

No but I quite fancy being called Tenby. You need to think of a valley.
Please tell me you're called Blaengarw!!
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