I need tips for dealing with/ignoring blatant favouritism by FIL.
DH seems to be able to switch off to the favouritism shown towards SIL so I’m trying my best to ignore that too, but it really pisses me off with regards to DS and DH’s niece and as they get older it’s becoming more obvious.
Some stuff FIL has done for SIL includes buying her a house outright, paying her a monthly allowance, buying her a car, taking SIL and niece on holiday, taking them out most weeks for meals.
It was nieces birthday recently and he took her on a shopping trip and lunch out, and arranged and paid for a family meal out for 10 people. He took her out for lunch today because she’s on half term, but hasn’t (and won’t) see if DS would like to go out for lunch this week while he’s off too. FIL is already talking about sorting niece out with driving lessons and a car next year, DS got nothing like that from FIL on his 17th.
It’s DS birthday very soon and DH is on about doing a meal out and inviting FIL - he’ll expect to be included - and by extension FIL seems to think that SIL and niece should also always be invited to these things.
I’ve got to the point where I really resent them all and want to spend as little of my time or money on the lot of them. I don’t really want to pay for a meal for them on DS birthday, I actually want to tell the lot of them to fuck off.
Funnily enough, for FIL’s birthday we’re always expected to sort out a meal/celebration and pick up the tab, SIL sits there looking blank when the bill arrives. We always end up hosting FIL at Christmas, Easter, etc, because SIL pleases herself and FIL would be on his own most years otherwise.
I’m after some tips to letting this all wash over me so I don’t explode. I’ve already had a discussion with DH and told him that for me to not fall out with them, firstly SIL needs to step up at Christmases and take her turn hosting FIL (I’ve made it clear I’m not doing it this year) and going forward any birthday or celebration meals that she comes along to with us, whether for us or FIL, we are not paying for her and niece any more.
I just don’t know how I’ll keep my mouth shut any more at times like when FIL is banging on about buying niece a car for her 17th birthday when DS got £50 in a card?