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Can I just suggest…

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BigYellowHat · 25/10/2021 08:09

That if you name change for privacy and change ‘a few details’ you don’t announce it!! When I’ve name changed for this reason I’ve done exactly this because if someone I knew started to smell a rat then surely they would start to unpick the post and think…’that sounds like the conversation I had with @bigyellowhat

Phew rant over 😂

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CiaoForDiNiaoSaur · 25/10/2021 08:15

Surely the whole point is that if someone then recognises you they can't link that post to your others under your usual name.
If you don't declare that you're a regular under a name change you'll be accused of being a first time poster and people are often suspicious then.

DurhamDurham · 25/10/2021 08:18

I think the main point of name changing is that anyone searching your history can't find all your other posts.

BigYellowHat · 25/10/2021 08:25

I get that @DurhamDurham so there’s definitely the element of deniability. However my thinking it that a- there’s no shame in being a first time poster, b- anyone can say they’ve posted before and c- someone out there may still just recognise them 🤷‍♀️

Why not go for total anonymity if you can?

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SaltedCaramelIcedLatte · 25/10/2021 08:31

It really bugs me when posters announce a name change...who cares?

DurhamDurham · 25/10/2021 08:35

@BigYellowHat yep I agree with that.

I've never name changed in all the years I've been here. Never posted anything interesting/controversial enough to warrant that Grin

BigYellowHat · 25/10/2021 09:00

‘It’s outing’ Not to me it ain’t love! However, anyone who will actually be interested and works it out will be rubbing their hands together with glee 😂

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CiaoForDiNiaoSaur · 25/10/2021 11:20

I think you're misunderstanding. It's not about total anonymity. I've got 2 names that I switch between. This one which I keep anonymous. At least I think I have. I post about how annoying my family are/ the abuse I suffered as a teen and other random stuff.
Under my other name I have posted my home town, my dcs names, my name and other potentially identifying info. If and it's a big if, some saw a couple of those things and then searched my user name it would pretty much confirm to them that I am me. (I'd imagine the exact combo of our names in my exact town are fairly rare). Now that's not a problem because by searching my other user name you wouldn't learn anything about me that I wouldn't tell you anyway.
But I don't want random school mums/my cousin/ my sister in law/whoever might use MN to connect me to the posts I post under this anonymous name. I'm happy to talk about my shit childhood. Anonymously.

That's why people name change.

BigYellowHat · 25/10/2021 11:35

Definitely not misunderstanding. I just think that if you have the option to chat to people about pretty much anything and can slope onto a thread anonymously (so to speak) then why wouldn’t you? No-one cares anyway if you’ve name changed. Fair enough if you see it differently, we all have different points of view.

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HouseOfFire · 25/10/2021 12:24

@CiaoForDiNiaoSaur

Under my other name I have posted my home town, my dcs names, my name and other potentially identifying info

I'm the same, I have my "outing name" and a mix of random other names, which I change every few months

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