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"Just friends" when they're clearly not.

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PackedintheUK · 24/10/2021 15:57

A male friend has recently split from a long term girlfriend because "she was jealous and couldn't handle my friendship with Sue". (Not real name). He insists they are just friends, but I know from FB that they spend a lot of time together, both just the two of them and as part of a group, which GF would have been a part of.

Sue is very attractive, lovely friendly woman and 20 years younger than my friend, which is why he keeps insisting that there's nothing it in, it's a preposterous idea not least because it's common knowledge she wants kids and he's now a (young) grandfather.

OMG, I was out with them both (and others)last night and I'd be suffering from "jelously" if I was a GF witnessing that. He sat close next to her in every bar, lots of touching, lots of in jokes etc.

Sue, I'd say, does see him as a friend and there's little chance that she'd be interested in more, but he definitely is. In the meantime, he's doing all her DIY for her, including staying for long weekends at her house and driving 100 miles to get there!

I know he sounds awful, but that's not my experience of him. I have also spent time 121 with him and he's been nothing but the perfect gent, it's this woman he's obsessed with not women generally. I'm actually quite worried for him, any future relationship with someone else is doomed, but I don't suppose there's any point explaining what I observed?

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Chocaholic9 · 24/10/2021 16:02

You sound like a caring friend but I would stay out of it. You have no idea how Sue really feels about him. He is probably making a fool of himself but it isn't your responsibility to protect him from that.

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