Birthday gift for DP's child?

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My DP has two children. We have now lived together for a few months and they have built up to now staying with us 2-3 nights per week. It's all going really well. DP obviously does all the parenting, but I join in playing with them, we have trips out together, I sometimes read stories, etc. I am very fond of them - they are great kids.

His DD is about to turn one. We have them the evening before/morning of her birthday and we are then going to their mum's for a party, cake, gifts and all that midmorning. Would it be weird if I got her a small birthday gift? Would it be weird if I didn't? DP thinks it's a great idea, but I don't want to annoy their mum. What do you think? If yes, what kind of thing would be appropriate? Was thinking a pull toy or sth like that maybe?

(For context. DP and ex coparent well. Ex and I don't see a huge amount of each other but have met several times and get on well. I would really like to keep it that way, hence overthinking this stuff. And before I get jumped on - I am not the OW. His ex broke up with him early on in 2nd pregnancy - no cheating, etc).

I’m not sure why you wouldn’t chip in to a present from their dad to be honest.
Also - as a separated parent of young kids, I can’t help but feel really sad their mum misses the kids first birthday morning

I got my now dhs dd a gift before I met her. Just a sticker book and a doll. There wasn't much at his mums house for her so it stayed there as that's where he staying for a bit to save after he and his ex split.

Once we lived together everything is from 'us' I choose most of it as I tend to know what kids like. Plus I'm a sahm and I have far more time to go get stuff than he does so works well for us I just use his card to pay haha
Everything stays here. A few bits went to dsc mums house and we got a photo of it all in the bin and said 'your gifts are shit' one being a gift that was 80 quid all cut up!
But she's different to your dps ex. Just get something and keep at your house

I would definitely get her something small. Especially as DP is on board. If I was mum I would think it was a nice gesture. Nothing flashy just maybe like you said a pull toy or maybe some books, a small doll, some blocks etc. It could be something she plays with when she comes to stay with you both.

I agree with the person who said a one-year-old won't know either way.

A xylophone or other musical gift would be my suggestion if you do want to get something, though. Or a lovely Julia Donaldson picture book to read together.

Thanks everyone. Ok, will get something small to take along. Sounds like my pull along toy idea is a hitting the mark fairly well. And I think she'd love it.

@Wingingit15 I know; it is sad. But the alternative would be her dad not seeing her on her first birthday morning. They worked it out between them and are doing the opposite set up for their little boy's birthday. Plus Christmas Day is at hers, which DP is also happy (if a bit heartbroken) with because it's going to be easiest for his DS.