So a few years back, my husband developed a “friendship” with someone that he works with. I should add he is in a senior position, she is not. I accidentally saw a notification pop up on his phone one evening. He had been texting her a lot and some of the things were quite personal eg complaining about how much his life with young kids sucked. They had become “best friends” they said. Lots of kisses on messages.
Fast forward and I discovered more lies (again by a phone notification) the girl had been attending a group social thing he does even though he told me she doesn’t go. An argument happened, we moved on.
Then fast forward to today, watching a video on his phone with the kids and a notification pops up from her arranging a group event taking place this week. Huge argument where I explained it’s the lying more than anything that has hurt me.
Now, he’s pulled out of the event like a martyr and his friends have all guessed that it’s because of his “controlling wife”.
I like to add, I don’t check his phone, I just happened to be watching A film with our children as mine was not in signal.
How the hell can we move on? I’m on the sofa awake and I cannot stop thinking about how hurt I am.