Do you tell your manager if you are struggling with mental health?

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Just that really, or do you just carry on and try to push past it?
I’m struggling massively this week, my dd who is 4 has covid and is quite ill with it, I am trying to keep my other dd well away from her for a variety of reasons but mostly that dd1 is clinically vulnerable. Work is so busy I don’t know which way to turn (am working from home as I won’t get paid if I am on parental leave which will add to my worries) and I just feel so full of anxiety at the moment that I seem to be shaking constantly.
I normally push past it all, on the outside I am so happy, helping everyone but I have hit a wall today and I don’t know how to overcome it at the moment, I work for the nhs so I know I could talk to my managers but I feel I will be judged and I am the kind of person that just deals with things internally, but when do you say this is all to much and my head can’t cope at the moment?

As a manager, I’d want to know so I could support you. I’d encourage you to take sick leave (and have in the past for team members) so you can get yourself well and look after your family. I am a firm believer that if you look after your people, most of the other stuff looks after itself.

As a manager I'd want to know how to support you, it's not a failing to admit you're struggling. Do you have an employee support line to call or mental first aides in post?

We don’t have mental health first aiders at present, and my manager is currently off sick so it would be my managers manager and I really struggle to open up to anyone. I work for nhs so we are bound to have employee support lines so i will look into these tomorrow - Thankyou for the suggestion.

In my current role, yes, my manager is fantastic on that score and extremely supportive. In previous roles, no way! I think it comes down to individual managers a lot of the time