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Dd wants a (in my opinion) rubbish present for Christmas.

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Florencenotflo · 21/10/2021 09:02

Dd is only 5 and already doing her Christmas list. She asks for the (attached) present every time we go into the toy shop and has even asked to buy it from her own money.

I am usually quite happy for let her spend her money on things she chooses, but I think this is really rubbish! And I know it will be top of her list again this year. Our budget this year for Dd is around £100 on presents for Christmas so to spend £40 of that on one present seems daft. The reviews of it are terrible, the case is pretty flimsy (not really usable as a suitcase) and the contents are mainly paper.

But at the end of the day, she's 5, it will make her happy, do I just suck it up?

(Plus, I can now see why my parents never bought me a Mr Frosty for Christmas when I was a child, although I'm still salty about it 😂)

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NameEight · 21/10/2021 13:18

Team buy it.
I have similar memories of my mom refusing to get me pink plastic tat as she saw it. Also fake Sindy that did not cut it and worse than no doll as couldn't buy a replacement.

2bazookas · 21/10/2021 13:28

Well as an adult, you know that trashy worthless product won't make her happy. It isn't even a "toy", its garish plastic with zero future as a favourite occupation or play activity. It's destined to be ignored and neglected.

FOR HER SAKE don't buy her something that is bound to disappoint and bore her. A 5 yr old can't grasp that advertisements/media promotoion is all about selling and making money. Your job is to protect her from those false promises by conmen.

TwinsandTrifle · 21/10/2021 13:37

This isn't "DD would like a suit case and I've found a crappy one, shall I get it" OP knows it's not fantastic.

This is a small child with a much longed for item at the top of her Christmas list. Yes it's a bit dysfunctional. It's £40 as the thing she wants most of all. She doesn't want a more practical substitute. And she'll be made up. Some people need to unclench.

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waterrat · 21/10/2021 13:37

I say find a better version. Seen so many tears from my kids over toys that break and are disappointing. Why would you encourage that

Picklepopsalot · 21/10/2021 13:39

My 5 year old DS wants Ryan’s World crap toys. I think it useless rubbish that clutters up his room, but I know it will light up his world and he really loves adding a new Ryan to his ‘collection’. At their age the magic of Christmas is so special. I’ll suck it up and buy it (whilst moaning to myself about how it’s complete tat 😂)

MesChiensSontBeaux · 21/10/2021 14:29

The people suggesting alternatives really don’t get it. She doesn’t want a similar item, she wants this one.
Imagine really wanting a certain item and someone getting you an alternative because they thought it was better or more value for money or whatever. You’d be disappointed.
A random suitcase, filled with random stuff isn’t what she wants.

AliceinBorderland · 21/10/2021 14:32

@MesChiensSontBeaux

The people suggesting alternatives really don’t get it. She doesn’t want a similar item, she wants this one. Imagine really wanting a certain item and someone getting you an alternative because they thought it was better or more value for money or whatever. You’d be disappointed. A random suitcase, filled with random stuff isn’t what she wants.
I want a lot of things I can't have!!!!!

Life doesn't work like that. High time she learned.

£40 on a piece of absolute junk. She will get over not having it.

AnnaSW1 · 21/10/2021 14:36

@AliceinBorderland don't you like children?

AliceinBorderland · 21/10/2021 14:37

[quote AnnaSW1]@AliceinBorderland don't you like children? [/quote]
Love them. But I wouldn't spend £40 on that just because a child wanted it.

AliceinBorderland · 21/10/2021 14:38

Now it is suggested that you can't possibly like children if you don't buy them what they want. Confused

AnnaSW1 · 21/10/2021 14:39

Just because they want it can be a good reason!

AnnaSW1 · 21/10/2021 14:39

It was the tone of you saying highly time she learnt... about a four year old Grin

MesChiensSontBeaux · 21/10/2021 14:42

AliceinBorderland

It’s Xmas. She really wants it. It’s within budget so she can have it.

Not everything in life has to be about showing children how shit life can be, despite what you think.

High time she learned.

Crazy fucker. SHES 5.

TwinsandTrifle · 21/10/2021 14:46

I want a lot of things I can't have!!!!!

But she can have it. If her mother chooses. This isn't down to her being a little Verruca Salt, it's the one thing at the top of her Christmas list.

Life doesn't work like that. High time she learned.

She's 5.

£40 on a piece of absolute junk. She will get over not having it.

Well, actually, in our late 30s DH and I bought each other a Mr Frosty, as it was such a strong childhood memory, of something we had seriously longed for, and didn't ever get. Funny how it's the Mr Frosty for so many people. I can remember being so sad that all my cousin's and friends at school had one, and figured I must have been undeserving. Now we've both got our own Mr Frosty. And he's utter junk. Still in his box. But I smile every time I see him in the cupboard. It's actually really important to me.

It's that when I told DH about how I'd never been allowed one, he saw (and knew himself) how badly the little girl in me longed for it all those years ago. And he cared that it mattered that much to me. It's not about it being junk. It's about listening to the one thing that is so important to her 5yr old self.

This isn't "just buy her everything she wants, junk or not" I hope people can recognise this.

Ormally · 21/10/2021 14:49

Age 5 I wanted a little plastic pram with a hood that had ladybird spots on. You could flip it from end to end. It was a better size for a child a couple of years younger. I was happy with it being the only thing on my Christmas list.

Kind relatives got me an elegant, larger pram that looked like a real one. I remember how disappointed I was, and how I knew I shouldn't be because of this grand gesture. Disappointment plus guilt is a big lump in the throat on Christmas day. It was so far from what I'd hoped for.

Justmuddlingalong · 21/10/2021 14:52

I was forever asking for those slip on plastic, clip cloppy shoes with a wee heel. Parents never bought them. I blame them for my now, exceptionally large collection of all kinds of footwear. 😜

FusionChefGeoff · 21/10/2021 14:53

I've bought DS9 a Nerf Ultra One machine gun style thing. He has no one to play it with and I hate them with a passion - but the look on his face willl be worth it. He's asked for 3 years in a row now!

YukoandHiro · 21/10/2021 14:54

This is her Girls World. Let her have it. She's only 5 once. And she thinks Santa is bringing anyway so has no idea of monetary value?

gogohm · 21/10/2021 14:59

I never got a mr frosty either. I bought my DD's the hello kitty sound system they wanted.

ThisKindOfThing · 21/10/2021 15:02

Blimey, some grinches on this thread.

TwinsandTrifle · 21/10/2021 15:04

Age 5 I wanted a little plastic pram with a hood that had ladybird spots on. You could flip it from end to end.

I know the one! Love how nostalgic this thread is.

I was forever asking for those slip on plastic, clip cloppy shoes with a wee heel. Parents never bought them.

Same Grin

I've bought DS9 a Nerf Ultra One machine gun style thing. He has no one to play it with and I hate them with a passion - but the look on his face willl be worth it. He's asked for 3 years in a row now!

Yes! DS was an only child for years and continually asked for a nerf gun. I hate them. The year we gave in and got him one, I've never seen him so happy. He carried that thing round like the holy grail.

OP buy the shite suitcase Grin

longwayoff · 21/10/2021 15:09

Buy it. It may be a bit of useless plastic tat but, to her, it's a princess case. If you don't buy it she'll remember forever. I write as a mother of many years still unforgiven Angry for refusing to buy a princess dress Make her day.

HemanOrSheRa · 21/10/2021 15:17

@Justmuddlingalong

I was forever asking for those slip on plastic, clip cloppy shoes with a wee heel. Parents never bought them. I blame them for my now, exceptionally large collection of all kinds of footwear. 😜
I had those shoes. They were fab!

I'm nearly 50 and this thread is making me miss my lovely Mum more than usual. She bought us the BEST Christmas presents. Buy case for your DD OP Smile.

allfurcoatnoknickers · 21/10/2021 15:20

@Shadedog

I would buy it but it is utter shite. I wouldn’t cobble together a home made version, it’s not what she wants, no matter how sensible it seems. My mother pulls this shit, drives me up the wall. My choices are frivolous nonsense, hers are sensible, so I can’t have things which are valuable to me. I’m nearly 50 btw. My whole life is a mr frosty moment.
Same @Shadedog same. Story of my life is my mother asking me what I want, I tell her, she gets (or does) her own "better" version which is not what I wanted. Sulks because I'm ungrateful. Rinse and repeat for 35 years.

Anyway, I also think the suitcase it horrible, but I'd grit my teeth and buy it anyway Grin.

Staryflight445 · 21/10/2021 15:38

‘
The best lesson to teach here is you cannot have everything you want and on this occasion you're not having it.’
^

God that’s fucking miserable, she’s asking for a £40 toy, which in the grand scheme of toys is a small drop in the ocean.
It’s hardly a barbie dream house for god sake.