Bereavement, when will this overwhelming tiredness ease

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And what can I do to help it?

DH died 4 months ago. Work have been brilliant, I had 2 months off and and just finishing a long phased return. It is a fairly ful onjob, but lots of allowances have been made for me. I do feel I need to get back "on it" though for my own benefit as well as theirs.

I also have a fairly busy social life, busy all weekend during the day, not so much in the evenings.

I'm also a runner which has been a blessing.

However, I feel absolutely exhausted. I'm coping OK, staying mostly cheerful with others and doing what needs doing but everything takes so much more effort than usual.

I'm wfh today as part of my phased return, it's not really done at my workplace as the vast majority of roles can't be done from home, parts of mine can. So far I haven't found the strength to even log on, which is a very bad thing and not at all like me. I'm supposed to be back to full time working next week. All I want to do is curl up and sleep.

My DH Died in July and I watch this with interest becuase I feel exactly the same as you.
I have just handed my notice in as I cant cope with the people here, found another WFH role so I can cope better.
I want to dig a hole and never come out but I have to be brave for my 14 yo son. Do you have children?

I'm very sorry for your loss
Are you even ready to be full time op? This will add to the exhaustion.
Do you find your more proactive when in the office?

I think extending your phased return will help and going in the office.
Getting up and ready first thing helped me when my father died. Otherwise I would have no up and go and sit around all day which in reality made me feel worse.
If you can't face it today, just tell them. You sound like you need a bed day to try and relax.

I am mostly in the office now, but it was agreed I should wfh "when possible" to give me a break from "keeping up appearances". I'm supposed to be doing some online training today.

Not bearevement related, but when I feel very down (I am a carer of my disabled DS) I find vitamin d helps a bit.

My DH died in 2019, I wasn't really physically well again for nearly a year. I had a few months off, went back to work too early because I needed the company and the distraction, and ended up having a breakdown. The tiredness lasted a long time. And the memory loss and inability to concentrate, I think that is partly what contributed to the tiredness.

It still hits me now, I have days when I am exhausted and can't be arsed, but they are becoming much fewer.

Hi op my dh very sadly passed away in 2018. I felt as if I'd been run over by a truck so.lethargic on top of which I was trying to cope with the busiest and most stressful time in my life. I didn't look after myself at all for a good couple of years so try to make self care a priority for you. Its getting better now, take care