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Have you contacted the person you keep dreaming about?

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Flumpyfish · 19/10/2021 18:04

For months now, this same person keeps cropping up in my dreams. Its not every night, but frequently enough that it's making me wonder why.

I dont know this person anymore. We went to school together, but that was about 20 years ago.
We have seen each other in passing a few times in our adult lives, but it has been nothing more than a hello.

I'm such a curious person, and part of me wonders if the dream is some kind of message to reach out. But at the same time, that is so far from my personality I wouldnt even know how. It would just be awkward. I dont think its something that I could do even if I really wanted to.

I'm just curious to know if others have experienced similar, and if they did reach out, what happened? Did the dreams stop?

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CodeMode · 19/10/2021 18:10

No. If you were important to each other, you wouldn’t have not seen each other for 20 years.

The only person I know that got in touch with someone from the past, had split up with her partner and was searching for someone to fill the gap. She caused issues for the other person who had a settled life. She too said that she believed the dreams were a message. 😬

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Flumpyfish · 19/10/2021 18:36

God. I'm glad I don't have it in me to contact them then! It must have been awful for your friend to be the cause of issues in the person's life.

Youre completely right when you say we wouldn't have seen each other in 20 years if we were important to each other. I dont believe we are, I've just got no idea why they keep cropping up. I wish they'd sod off.

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CodeMode · 19/10/2021 18:56

It wasn’t my friend. It was a woman who contacted a male friend of ours.

SmileyClare · 19/10/2021 19:07

I just Googled "reoccurring dreams about a person" and found this possible explanation.

It could mean you have an unresolved issue or remaining anxiety about something this person might symbolise? For example, something linked to your school days; an unhappy event at school? Or is there something in your life that's making you feel a bit lost or childlike at the moment?

You can't interpret dreams in a literal way, they are quite abstract emotions or problems from your past or present your brain is trying to decipher and make sense of.

I'm no dream analyst though! That's just from an article online.

I've had a couple of sex dreams about the presenter on Homes Under the Hammer of all people! I don't find him attractive and I definitely haven't tried to contact him!

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Flumpyfish · 19/10/2021 19:23

I've thought and thought and thought about what it could represent. Nothing seems to stand out.

Theres no attraction there, not in real life, or in the dream. It's always just talking. What about, I'm not really sure, but that is all that ever happens. I wish I could remember at least one conversation in the dream as it might give a hint to its deeper meaning.

I loved my school days, and I believe I'm the most content I've ever been in life right now. Unless because I am content, it's using this time to dig into the past.

It just made me wonder about others who have experienced similar and what happened if they reached out to the person.

I bet that homes under the hammer one wasn't a pleasant dream to remember

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Mybalconyiscracking · 19/10/2021 19:25

No, because (for some reason) it’s Mick Hucknell.

SmileyClare · 19/10/2021 19:43

Maybe it's a simple as you feeling very happy and content right now and your brain linking that with feeling happy and secure in your school days?

Also Mick Hucknell? Was it in his days of long flowing locks? I feel slightly better about my man in the yellow corduroy trousers from Homes Under the Hammer now.

reallyworriedjobhunter · 19/10/2021 19:48

Isn't this a thing called limerance?

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Flumpyfish · 19/10/2021 20:06

I dont think so. I've just looked up the meaning of that and it seems to be more a crushing obsession with a person.

Other than this person popping into my dreams every now and then, I dont think about them. Obviously I am now because if the amount of dreams. But its more so about a why than anything else.

The idea of it being as simple as it being because I am content right now and is linking to other happy times could make sense. Just not the age difference, but maybe that represents growth.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 19/10/2021 20:10

Someone did contact me and frankly it was really odd.

SmileyClare · 19/10/2021 20:17

Yeah I don't think this is limerence either. Unless you're having obsessional fantasies about this man and daydreaming about him too!

Maybe because you're trying to analyse it before you go to bed, your brain keeps going back to him in your sleep. Oh dear, that probably means he'll pop up tonight too

There is some opinion that you can influence your dreams. Try a suggestion technique when you repeat a scenario and play it in your mind several times before falling asleep.

SmileyClare · 19/10/2021 20:19

What did they say MrsTP? That sounds awkward!

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/10/2021 20:21

@SmileyClare

What did they say MrsTP? That sounds awkward!

Literally as the OP. I've been dreaming about you lots, not in a weird way, so it's probably meaningful and I thought I'd contact you.

Made weirder that they had to search for my parents to do it.

Right creeped me out.

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/10/2021 20:22

Maybe if I was a woo person it would have been less odd.

SmileyClare · 19/10/2021 20:24

"not in a weird way" sorry but .
What on earth did they expect you to say! That's really bizarre. Please don't do this Op.

TheVolturi · 19/10/2021 20:24

I dream about an ex boyfriend from almost 20 years ago, at least a few times a year. I know for certain it's because I was a complete bitch to him and ended things that hurt him badly. I have always hoped he found happiness, I just wasn't right for him at the time I was too young and had just been through a really traumatic event so wasn't ready for what he wanted. No part of me thinks its a good idea to contact him though.

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Flumpyfish · 19/10/2021 20:25

Thank you. I will try a suggestion technique especially after entertaining it with this post lol.

That does sound creepy. Going through your parents to get to you
Did they find the meaning, or did they just find out that they were a creep?

This is why I could never actually act on it. I cant see a way where its not creepy, weird or awkward. I also wouldn't like it if someone contacted me that way either.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 19/10/2021 20:29

Did they find the meaning, or did they just find out that they were a creep?

They found out that I wasn't accommodating their notions it was a little like, "umm that's nice, let's be Facebook acquaintances friends"

I do wonder if they did find their meaning. I wasn't really joining in though.

romdowa · 19/10/2021 20:32

This happened to me a number of years ago. Would constantly dream of an old friend who I had drifted apart from. Went on for about 2 years, I reached out last year on social media , never heard back but thankfully the dreams stopped. I used to find the dreams very upsetting so I'm glad they stopped.

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Flumpyfish · 19/10/2021 21:43

I'm glad the dreams stopped, romdowa.

It must be hard when the dreams keep happening when it's a reminder of something not very nice from your past.

Thats a long time to be tormented with those dreams volturi. I hope they eventually stop.

How could you do anything else mrsterry. Its bad enough when you hear people's dreams when you know them already. I never know what to say to them. But to hear that you were the star of someone's dream who you haven't seen for a while is just weird. How do you respond other than "that's nice"

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stealingbeauty · 19/10/2021 21:50

I’ve had this with an old friend from school who I no longer see and feel no connection to.
I would dream about her all the time, not for months, but for some years. She was never a central part of the dream but she’d often be there with me in the dreams. I’m quite woo so I did wonder if maybe she’d died, but I don’t think she has. It just stopped happening after a while and I never worked out what it meant (if it even did mean anything).

SiulaGrande · 19/10/2021 22:01

I had this, for a couple of years. Was about someone at work and used to make my colleagues laugh a lot.

For me it was that they were symbolic of a change I needed to make in my life. Made the change, never dreamt about that person again.

(That sounds so simple there, it was a somewhat massive life change but it was necessary. Think that's why my subconscious kept trying to get the message through to me).

MintLampShade · 19/10/2021 22:13

Your post just reminded me of something that happened to me at Uni. Hear me out...maybe someone even be able to tell me if this thing has a name. Don't laugh though 🙈

So I had this friend at Uni, she was a bit eccentric and a bit on the spiritual side. I also had a massive crush on a guy who didn't really notice me. Anyway. This friend told me about a technique (this is where I get fuzzy as it was AGES ago!!) - so when you go to sleep at night and you are in the state of nearly asleep, you consciously think of someone and "call" them. Try and say something to them. And when you do this repeatedly, the person you are trying to reach should wake up with a feeling of wanting to speak to you, having had a dream about you (or similar!!). I know how it sounds and it does make me chuckle thinking about it now and I'm most certainly not saying to reach out to this person as I absolutely do not believe in things like this or practice anything even remotely similar but it's just funny how your dream reminded me of that uni friend and those evenings I was half asleep muttering to my Uni crush, hoping he will hear my calling 🤣

I do however find dreams and dreaming FASCINATING, so following this thread 🍷 🍰

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Flumpyfish · 19/10/2021 22:33

Hopefully sometime soon I learn what the dream is trying to tell me so I can get rid of this confusion. Its amazing how the dreams stopped as soon as you listened, @SiulaGrande

@MintLampShade I know what you mean! I remember trying that in my younger years. I think its like a form of telepathy.

I remember also making arrangements with friends to try and meet each other in the astral planes in our dreams it never worked.

I wonder if what you're talking about is some kind of law of attraction as well.

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XenoBitch · 19/10/2021 22:35

@Flumpyfish

For months now, this same person keeps cropping up in my dreams. Its not every night, but frequently enough that it's making me wonder why.

I'm just curious to know if others have experienced similar, and if they did reach out, what happened? Did the dreams stop?

Yes! I had a massive crush on someone in school... and for the past 20 or so years since, I have had dreams about him. We did get in touch on FB, and met up... and I totally fucked it up and now he barely speaks to me. I still get the dreams though, but not as often.

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