Family court forms and csa help

[dibzylove]

Hiya everyone. Hope all is as well as can be

So, I'm in a bit a pickle. Long one here.

So, 2018 I had a breakdown and sebt my little one to stay with her dad as didn't want her dealing with my pain or learning from my breakdown (she was only 3 at the time) and was also worried ss would get involved in which they eventually did.
Since then, lots has happened and we ended up in court. "as far as I no and have been told" (yes.. I no it sounds odd but I was never actually given a court order. Both ss and lil ones dad refuse to show or give me one and court never gave me one either!) I'm meant to have contact once a month for a few hours (this is meant to increase as time went on) supervised as well as meaning to recieve letters from lil ones dad twice a month on updates about her.

Last contact was July time last year and this is when lil ones dad stopped replying to messages about contact.
In regards to letters. These were always few asnd far between but was happy just to get any letters at all regarding lil one. Last post contact was Christmas 2020 (one gone) and that was it.
Ive had or heard nothing since. Have messaged 8 times this year to ask about contact and no reply at all. Have been worried about messaging more as this is one of the things that came up in court last time. I'd messaged 2ce a week asking how my daughter was just to be told id harrased lil ones dad. So have been put off messaging morei occasionally send my little one gifts by signed delivery. So I no they have received it but whether or not its given to child from me in that sense I don't no. I have kept receipts and pictures of gifts and letters sent so hopefully nothing in that way can be used against me.

I am wondering if I went back to court, what was the chances of something going in my favor.

My other concern now is that I've just returned to work after 4 years of being jobless and ill. Obviously in that 4 years I'd been on benefits and raked up quite a high csa arrears backlog. Now that csa see I am working. They are asking for 130 a week. I only earn 340 a week. So at first. This will. Make life really hard and I am worrying about it all. Although I am wanting to pay for my child, how do I support myself as well as pay that amount to begin with at the same time?

Ive come along way since my breakdown and while I still have a way to go, I just want to stay on the right path as well as support my child, be there for her and make sure she has what she needs

How do you think it will work out if I went back to court around contact and csa payments?

Contact MIGHT be increased, but I reckon it would need to be supervised for awhile because now you are essentially a stranger to the child.
If CSA (after calculating everything) say you have to pay that amount, then courts won’t dispute that.
I know you were struggling, but why have you waited more than a year to think about going back to court?
Do you have a lawyer?

while you were on benefits you would have been paying a flat rate of child maintenance- £7 per week, was this paid? if it wasn't being paid the receiving parent would have notified CMS and had deductions taken out at source so I'm not sure how you've racked up debt to increase your weekly payment by £90 (on £340 if gross that would mean a payment of £40 a week. If the arrears are (at the maximum) of £7 weekly for 4 years, it would be paid off within 4 months if you pay the £130 a week so the CMS may renegotiate if it leaves you in financial difficulty.

Hello. And thanks for the replys.
Csa was paid through my benefits monthly so was getting paid so I'm also stuck as to why its so much. While I understand arrears to some extent, I'm a little shocked as to how much hence the asking and wondering.

As to why I waited a year to go to court. The cost. As you may no, universe credit isn't a lot Monthly. And with the 180 I had left after paying rent, there's electric, water, gas to pay not to mention having to use food banks for myself.

After receiving the correct help and getting the right diognoses for my health, I'm not stably in work so can somewhat afford to go back to court and pay maintenance properly to some extent. Its just working out how!

Oh, I'd also tried to get the help with not paying court fees, but was always told either than due to no domestic violence I wouldn't get awarded or the funded had run out.