Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Original poster

Hate what covid has done to me

16 replies

Bluenetbags · 18/10/2021 09:55

Not covid itself but fear of covid really. Am on a train with DD and there is a woman nearby who keeps sneezing and sniffing. I'm SURE she just has a cold and I'm double vaxxed anyway (and not CV), but I'm on my way to see my Dad who is ECV and I just feel so freaked out. It is ridiculous. I am unable to wear a mask when with my DD as she has ASD and gets very distressed by me wearing one.

I would never ever have thought twice about this before. I hate it.

OP posts:
1990s · 18/10/2021 09:58

I feel the same!

I’m not terrified or anything (I don’t have close CV people as you do Flowers) but I’m just constantly a little bit on edge when around other people.

Original poster
Bluenetbags · 18/10/2021 10:16

It just feels so unnatural to feel like this!

OP posts:
ssd · 18/10/2021 10:19

I agree

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

Covid-19 SEN
PurpleDaisies · 18/10/2021 10:22

It’s totally understandable with an ECV relative.

Can you move to another carriage?

DaisyNGO · 18/10/2021 10:25

I always kept away from people who were obviously full of cold even more. So this bit at least isn't new. I have really noticed that everyone seems to have a cold at the mo.

Can you use that Stop Cold spray from Boots? I have always used it on the Tube before.

www.boots.com/boots-dual-defence-nasal-spray-20ml-10220406

Original poster
Bluenetbags · 18/10/2021 10:25

Can you move to another carriage?

Everywhere is full - it's a really busy train

OP posts:
Original poster
Bluenetbags · 18/10/2021 10:26

That plus DD will freak if I try to move her now

OP posts:
Movinghouseatlast · 18/10/2021 10:29

If you are this worried I would wear a mask, preferably an N95 type that stops 95% of anything getting in. Maybe wear it at home to get your daughter used to it?

I was very worried before I went on holiday ( didn't want 10 days in quarantine abroad) and it put my mind at rest considerably.

Original poster
Bluenetbags · 18/10/2021 10:34

If you are this worried I would wear a mask, preferably an N95 type that stops 95% of anything getting in. Maybe wear it at home to get your daughter used to it?

I really can't with DD, she gets so distressed she would be a danger to herself.

OP posts:
TiddleTaddleTat · 18/10/2021 10:35

Sounds really tough, OP. Hopefully you won't catch anything from that passenger.

Original poster
Bluenetbags · 18/10/2021 10:39

It's so hard not to think everything is covid now! Even though there are tonnes of other things in circulation.

OP posts:
bearlyactive · 18/10/2021 10:43

I'm the same, I have a ECV person in my bubble. I was in the city at the weekend and now I'm full of anxiety about COVID. A work colleague also came into work with a new continuous cough the other day, feeding my anxiety. I can't envisage living like this forever. I don't know how I'll cope with the constant paranoia that my trip to the restaurant/the theatre/etc might kill my ECV relative.

moregarlic · 18/10/2021 10:46

It’s not your fault, it’s well documented the government has weaponised fear to get the public to comply with their covid measures.

If you’re interested, look up spi-b, Laura Dodsworth has done lots of great stuff on this.

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2021/05/14/scientists-admit-totalitarian-use-fear-control-behaviour-covid/

gingerlyme · 18/10/2021 10:48

I'm the same. Was the only one wearing masks in b&m the other day. People looking at me like I'm a weirdo. BUT if I get covid I'll be the one on a ventilator.

moregarlic · 18/10/2021 10:49

In terms of what might help, could you look at the actual data on death (rather than sensationalised media reporting)? Or compare your tolerance of other activities that come with risk? Could you think about how you used to act during flu season?

savagebaggagemaster · 18/10/2021 10:55

I'm sorry your dd is fearful of you wearing a mask, that must be difficult for you all. I know I would struggle with this personally and wouldn't want to go on public transport unmasked. Where I live I don't need to, so I'm lucky.
My ds (who also has asd) is the opposite and orders everyone in the family to wear masks and is the only child in his class who wears one (and that's still the case even after us all catching Covid!)
I think it's natural to be much more alert now to the possibility of viruses circulating and to worry more about catching them. We've been more educated (in most cases anyway!) and had our senses heightened to how viruses spread, how dangerous they can be to the most vulnerable, etc. Sadly we've also been made to feel extremely fearful by the media and government when it suited them to send out particular messages. I have ecv dparents in their 80s who have been triply (is this a word?) vaccinated and they are frightened of seeing us. We've seen them once since January 2020. It's so very sad that we can't spend those precious times together. I can't think about it too deeply otherwise my mental health would decline even further.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page