Upset by last night's dream

[Teaandakitkat]

Been married 15 years, 3 kids, mostly happy, lovely kind, generous husband, but over the past few years we've been less close. Nothing dramatic but less close.

Last night I had a dream I was back with an old boyfriend. It was lovely, we were so happy together. I was so happy to be with him and be holding his hand, I had this really strong feeling of being happy just being with him.

I never have that feeling any more irl with my husband.

I feel quite sad this morning that I was so happy in my dream with someone I haven't seen in 20 years and I'm never that happy in my actual life with my actual husband. I hadn't realised how much was missing.

Think your dream was your subconscious reminding you how good things were in the past.
Not necessarily with your old boyfriend but with your DH.

Can you work on your relationship with your DH, talk to him and make time for one another?

I have this sometimes and I know others have too. I suspect what you are missing is the intimacy and passion that comes with young relationships before life takes its toll.

I don’t know any middle aged couples who are like that.

I suspect what you miss most is being young.

Know the feeling you had , it’s crazy how are minds work. If you’re happy with you now put those feelings behind you.