List of things to make me happier

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I’ve been feeling very low recently. I have 2.5 year old twin girls, and yes I adore them, but they are such hard work.

So I decided to make a list of what I thought would make me happier and it turns out that everything on there is 100% up to me to change my behaviour.

My DH is fab, is great with the girls, does all of the food shopping, and does lots of chores around the house.

The things I have on my list are:-

Eat better
Lose weight (see above)
Take better care of my skin
Be more organised
Stop spending money on coffee & cake (I’m spending a stupid amount on lattes & drinks when I go out with the girls as going out makes me feel better)
Stop buying chocolate - every time I fill the car up I come out with the chocolate bar as I convince myself it will perk me up & give me that boost they I need
Keep my car cleaner - it’s like a dustbin
Keep my house cleaner/less clutter/try and find a “home” for everything.

I very rarely even look in the mirror anymore, I hardly ever buy clothes and then the ones that I do are just baggy shapeless cheap rubbish. I’m a size 16 but aware that I’m creeping up to the next size.

I feel like I’m failing, and that every day I’m just about clinging on. By the time I go to bed I can’t be bothered to cleanse/tone/moisturise.

I’ve also been suffering with insomnia and some nights I can be awake for 3-4 hours.

So how depressing was that read!! I’ve depressed myself even more now 😂

Does anyone have any strategies for helping me achieve these goals? I’ve already downloaded TOMM method and I’m going to give it a go re. the housework.

I feel like I need to completely overhaul my life and give myself a massive kick up the backside

I’ve read that habits are easier to change if you swap them for better alternatives, rather than try to quit altogether

Totally agree with this and it's what I do and advise on the weight loss front

Eg my downfall is crisps/savoury snacks so now I have carrot sticks - I season them for that salty/umami hit! Sometimes garlic grinder, sometimes smoked paprika, sometimes simple salt and black pepper

Thank you everyone for your lovely and helpful comments.

Yesterday I managed to get out for a walk with the dog whilst the girls were in bed (DH working from home so they weren't abandoned), I had nearly an hour of walking through the fields listening to the Dave Grohl autobiography on audible - which is so good by the way.

We didn't go out all day, and managed to get through the day just fine, although one of my girls did totally refuse to eat her dinner and wee'd all over her booster seat but hey every day can't be a win lol

Well done OP.

I've started listening to podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/dear-joan-and-jericha-julia-davis-and-vicki-pepperdine/id1376577916 it's very very funny. Laughter is so good for feeling better!