Abit of background my sister had a bad break up with her DH and is now a single parent. The last two years since the split I have tried to be supportive but I also have to admit we are not the closest and to me she often plays the victim and manipulates my parents for example if they don't babysit when she wants them to.
This has now led to the situation where I feel her DC is being favourably treated over mine. Also because of lockdown my parents didn't see my children for a lot longer than hers.
We normally all see each other about once a week. However it always seems to be let's make sure my sister and her DC can make it before we arrange. On times she can't my parents have said shall we leave it till next week then. It dawned on me this week how little my parents have spent time with just me and my DC without my sister being there.
I have mentioned a halloween event this year and again it's whether my sister can make it on that date. I think if she can't make that date they will go with her another date. These are just a couple of examples.
DH and my rational brain is telling me it's because she is a single parent but I can't help finding it upsetting now. I am not sure if my judgement is abit clouded by the fact we are not particularly close and before her divorce I actually kept her at arms length.
I have thought about talking to my parents but not sure if it's a good idea. Not even sure what I am asking really just seeing there are others in similar situations?