My granny's died

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My wonderful, kind, gentle gran has died. I'm devastated . She was very old, she was tired and she'd been dreadfully unwell for a long, long time but I'm gutted .

She couldn't do more for her grandchildren, she was just this amazing force of life and energy - how can that just be gone? I can't get past the fact that I'll never phone her again, never see her .

She was a proper 'storybook' Gran, she was always making jam, puddings, she was full of books and stories and songs and games . If you went out with her people would end up watching her, as she was always leading the party with a song .

She would do anything to help another person, I always remember I once left a tiny little polly pocket doll at her house when I was 3 or 4, it can't have bigger than a cm tall, she found it (miracle in a house that size) and sent it up in the mail.

She was so wonderfully 'her', eccentric and of a forgotten age where people wore hats to bed, ate breakfast with proper silver and china plates and answered the phone by telling you the number you'd just rung.

I absolutely adored every single bit of her and my Granda, who died years and years ago, I can't believe that they're both gone now and any children I have won't get to meet them .

How can I make sure I remember every part of her? I wish I'd known the last time I saw her that I was saying goodbye, but maybe its better that I didn't, I don't know .

I am so sorry.

I'm really sorry for your loss 💐

You could make a really lovely scrapbook of your favourite memories using photos, poems, her favourite song lyrics and pictures of the things she loved like flowers and places.

I'm not really sure if this is the kind of thing you mean but it could be a very special, personalised tribute to your lovely granny.

I'm very sorry, she sounds wonderful

I’m so sorry.

I lost my beloved aunt last year - we were very close. My cousin said to me, very widely in one of my moments of upset - “Well, it’s the price you pay for the privilege of having someone who really ‘got you’”. Which was spot on, really. You’re so upset because you’ve had such good times. And those good times are something to treasure.

I'm so sorry for your loss, she sounds wonderful.

Make a scrap book, write your memories down, so you can always remember and always talk about her. I lost my Mum a few years ago and I had cushions made for my kids from a skirt I loved her in and I often sniff her perfume.
Sending love

She sounds absolutely beautiful and wonderful and how lucky you are to have had her in your life.
I’m so sorry she’s passed

Please write as many things down as possible. It's important, for your family as a whole.

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a similar gran, who died when I was 16 and I still carry her in my heart.

She sounds absolutely wonderful and you have written a beautiful tribute to her ❤
I love the idea of making a scrapbook of her life!

Oh, I had a Nana just like that. I adored her and miss her still.
The best way to remember her is to realise how absolutely lucky you were to have her in your life and value your worth by the love she gave you. She showed you real love so now you know you're worth more than a lazy man, an unkind man. There was a respectful love between you and your Gran so now you can emulate that in your life partner. She's shown you how that works, so now you know. And that's a great gift.
I am eternally grateful for my Nana.

She sounds amazing. I'm so sorry

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my Nan, who sounds similar to yours, 18 years ago. She was 98, truly amazing, and I adored her. While I still miss her I'm grateful I have my wonderful memories of this amazing woman. You'll remember how special she was, and you'll carry that with you

She sounds lovely OP 💐 so sorry for your loss. I'd write about her and her life. It's little things like not being able to remember my nanas favourite song that really bother me now.

Thank you, it's been a funny old afternoon remembering lots of Gran's stories . She was dreadfully unwell towards the end of her life, and she was suffering, and missing her loved ones very much - she was one of the last of her generation and the last of her friends.

She lived some incredible life, she travelled, she was very fortunate in many respects.

I asked her on the phone some time ago if she remembered something happening - very heavy snow, it saw to the end of her greenhouse - and her answer was that she remembered only happiness, she didn't remember any of her misfortunes . When I phoned her she was always happy, telling me about her garden and the things she could see . She was just wonderful. She's going to be so dreadfully missed .

When my Granda died they gave me a collection of his books, and I used to smell the inside of them, as weird as that sounds, because I thought I could smell their house - sort of musty, old book, bronnely talc scented ... I wish I had those books with me now, they're all up at my mum's.

Thanks all so so much for the lovely messages, I love the idea of a scrapbook - even better that scrapbooking's already a big hobby of mine!

You could grow some of her favourite plants and flowers in a particular flowerbed in your garden

Awww, I’m so sorry my love. I’m 50 now and both my Nannies lived til well in to their 90s, but that didn’t make it any easier. They were both huge influences on me, and I know they both loved me so much. I sometimes daydream about being able to go back in time, just for a day, and I’d spend it with them. I was reading some of the last letters from one of my Nannies just the other day, I’ve kept cards and letters in a special box. A scrapbook is a lovely idea, that, and your memories, will keep her in your mind and your heart.