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To ask what you are doing with you kids today?

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mrshunta · 16/10/2021 12:39

Feel like a horrible mum and have let my depression ruin the day already. So determined to pull myself together and take them out.

What is everyone doing with their DC's today?

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Tapta · 16/10/2021 12:42

No you haven’t. I am sorry you are struggling. How old are your kids?.
I will be taking them for a bike ride about 2.

Vallmo47 · 16/10/2021 12:44

We went to the local basketball court, borrowed a few new books from library and finished off with a sausage rolls. It was nice and chilled.

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mrshunta · 16/10/2021 12:48

DD is 3 & DS 4 we promised to take them swimming this morning that just never happened. OH is fed up as I am always lying in bed and never want to do anything.

Not to sure where we can take them now..

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LillyBugg · 16/10/2021 12:53

We went to the library and bought a cake from a bakery. Let them choose. They thought it was the best ever. It doesn't have to be big plans OP. Run around a park and a sweetie from a shop would do it. Sorry you're not feeling great.

YungDumbThrills · 16/10/2021 12:54

Hi OP, I'm in the same boat with feeling the depression today and had two panic attacks yesterday so I'm absolutely exhausted. Remember it's ok to have down days where you do nothing, that's a way of self healing.
My friend has invited us to softplay for a few hours so I'm pushing myself to get us ready and get out.
Whatever you do today, go easy on yourself xx

BusySittingDown · 16/10/2021 12:58

DD2 (10) is off to Slimefest in Blackpool with her friends so we're taking DD1 (14) out for tea just to a local Italian place.

Usually we just potter about and do our own things and the DDs stay in their rooms playing on their consoles etc.

Please don't feel like a horrible mum. I'm sorry you've been struggling. Flowers Depression sucks!

Redwinestillfine · 16/10/2021 13:06

Just a walk around the block/ to the park will blow the cobwebs away. Then you can hunker down. Be kind to yourself op.

Enterifyoudare · 16/10/2021 13:11

Honestly OP, give yourself a break .

I used to really beat myself up about taking my kids out on the weekends. My DH works Saturdays and I used to find it so overwhelming getting them both out of my own to places that were ridiculously busy. After they started at school, they hated leaving the house on Saturdays too.

I admitted defeat and now Saturdays are lazy days. We don't leave the house. I catch up on housework or rest as I need it. The kids get to do whatever they want, which usually involves the wearing of PJs and lots of screen time.

We do always plan something out of the house on a Sunday altogether as a family too.

CoodleMoodle · 16/10/2021 13:14

Echoing PPs saying be kind to yourself.

DD7 has done some colouring and started a jigsaw with DH. We're currently at her swimming lesson. After her shower we'll probably have loads of screen time because it's the weekend and I don't care at the weekend! She might do some more puzzle with her Dad if she wants to.

DS3 has screamed, tantrumed and been a general PITA. He also did some colouring and we did a puzzle, and is currently at home with DH, eating lunch and watching Duggee. Hopefully not shouting!

We might go for a walk later because DD has something to post through her best friend's door and it can't possibly wait for Monday morning...

Hayup · 16/10/2021 13:25

DD is curled up on the sofa watching a film on the tablet, She's had a swimming lesson this morning, then we went food shopping.

In between doing a little bit of housework we're doing some colouring.

We don't generally do much over the weekend, we all need a bit of time to unwind, be kind to yourself. If you can, take the children for a walk, (even if it's 500 yards around the block) and feel the sun on your face.

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Fallagain · 16/10/2021 13:27

Sod all. DH has taken the older one for a PCR test. Other than that we are hanging out all home, so far they have made a lot of mess!

Sherrystrull · 16/10/2021 13:28

Why don't you go to the park and the garden centre for a cuppa and cake?

Camomila · 16/10/2021 13:34

DS1 and DH are having a "boy day" and have gone bowling and to nandos.

Toddler DS2 is getting over a bug so we are staying home - he is a good patient luckily and is happy sitting on my lap watching cartoons or having books read to him. I'm feeling a bit peaky now too.

TheGirlWhoLived · 16/10/2021 13:47

We went to the park this morning, then made a graveyard out of iced biscuits.
Dd1 and dd2 are downstairs playing on the phone and watching YouTube whilst I’m putting ds1 down for a nap!

lilmishap · 16/10/2021 13:49

Naff all today. I've had a shitty week and have managed not to cry all day (it's an accumulative everything is not as nice as it should be cry, not an I can't cope cry) so I'm taking that as a win.

DS1 is happily dancing away to his tunes in his rooms and I'm sat on sofa just a bout to start Home Alone Holiday Heist with DS2, we did Home Alone 1,2 and 3 already.

Not a great day but it's not shit just because we're not cantering over the downs and drinking lashings of ginger beer either.

Give yourself a break and accept you need this downtime or it just becomes another stick to beat yourself with.

Is DH taking them out or just letting you know how disgruntled he is?

Tulips15 · 16/10/2021 13:50

Currently sat at skatepark, I forgot my flask and coat- Its a bit cold!!!!
Later , We will decorate cupcakes ( Ready bought cupcakes & I will melt chocolate and give them the sweets & choc to decorate!)

Floristry382 · 16/10/2021 13:53

Why don't you do something fun at home. Put a blanket on the floor, ask them to get their favourite toys/teddies and have a very simple picnic together and then read them a story.

NerrSnerr · 16/10/2021 13:53

If you're having a bad day could your OH take the children out somewhere so you can have some time to yourself (if you feel that would help?)

If not I would do what you find easiest. Soft play, park, walk with scooters, to a pond/ lake/ river to throw stones or play Pooh sticks if there's a little bridge, a trip to the charity shop so the children can chose a toy and a book.

Do whatever is easiest for you.

MrsIPFreely · 16/10/2021 13:54

We're in Covid isolation so no ability to go anywhere. I told the DC we'd have a cinema afternoon so they needed to prep for it. They've made tickets and posters so far and are rearranging the sitting room for comfort at the moment. I've done a bit of cleaning but it's all been very lazy.

NerrSnerr · 16/10/2021 13:55

Or stay at home if you want to. That's absolutely fine.

Lolly34h · 16/10/2021 14:31

Picked my dd3 up from her nans as I was working last night till 11. So we are having a lazy day playing with Lego and colouring and stuff. Will get her to help me make a stew for tomorrows lunch in a little while and then it's dinner bath and an early night. My mom lets her stay up later when she has her so she will sleep early for me tonight.

Don't punish yourself because your not out. Make fun in the house bake cakes or colouring or simple things like chopping veg for dinner or something keeps the kids happy I find.

Mamette · 16/10/2021 14:43

OP, mine went to football and then swimming. But the thing is they are enrolled in these activities so a) no thought is required on the day, and b) you have to go because they are booked in and paid for.

When I was on my own with my older DC, I always had her go to ballet on a Saturday morning as I needed a fixed event to be up and out for. Once you’re been out it’s easier to make more of the day.

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GreySweater · 16/10/2021 14:48

A quiet day here too. Walked to the library with 2x DC to get some new books out and bought milk at the local shop! Back home now and homework / console time. And that's about as much as I'm prepared to bother about today. Take it easy x

bobsholi · 16/10/2021 14:52

We went to McDonalds and the park. Now I'm taking DC1 out on his bike and when we get back I'll stick a film on for him and the other 2. I find that the DCs prefer slow weekends over manic ones.

inappropriateraspberry · 16/10/2021 14:55

Nothing! They've been playing together and separately. Oldest (6) has done some drawing and played in her tablet. Youngest (3) has been playing with diggers.
They are now dressed as Anna and Olaf and running round the garden.
Let them do their own thing, let them learn what boredom is!
Why not all cuddle in bed and read them some stories and just have a chat - they'll come out with some funny stuff at that age!