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What do your teenage girls do after school ?

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familybfive · 16/10/2021 07:59

Just interested really, after the lockdowns and everything, my DD 15 is often at a loose end :(

She does a swim/life saving club one evening , and she will read and also comes to the gym with me sometimes ..,

She doesn't have loads of friends , and i feel sad when she’s just a home on her ipad/watching tv.

Just wondered what other teenage girls are doing ,? TIA

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GoodnightGrandma · 16/10/2021 08:01

TV and phone.
Can’t get him to go back to the gym.

AmanitaRubescens · 16/10/2021 08:06

Sadly, I think this was the norm even before lockdown. Teens don't seem to hang out like they did pre mobile phones etc

My DD does homework, trains, watches crap on phone. She has a part time job now she's 16.

Does your Dd ever have friends over?

PanicBuyingSprouts · 16/10/2021 08:08

She goes to cadets twice a week and skateboarding one night but apart from that her tone is usually spent on her phone.

Newfrontdoor · 16/10/2021 08:09

Swims three times (different clubs) climbs, goes to the gym by herself (wouldn't be seen dead there with me) or watches endless reruns of TV and of course lots of homework. I think it's pretty normal Tbh.

Thatsplentyjack · 16/10/2021 08:10

At 15 I was out drinking with friends most nights, but that's when I had fallen in with a lot of older people I really should have been hanging around with. Before that I would come home, have a nap, watch telly. I was perfectly happy doing that. I didn't want to go to clubs etc.

Thatsplentyjack · 16/10/2021 08:11

Shouldn't, not should have been hanging around with.

HelplessAndLost · 16/10/2021 08:11

I have 2 teenagers close in age so they always have each other for company.
They play on the Switch, listen to records, look up stuff online they want to buy. Lockdown has definitely made them more anti-social and they’re content with being at home and just talking to each other.
I think if they were only children they’d probably want to spend more time with friends out of the house.

frazzledfragglefromfragglerock · 16/10/2021 08:12

Homework, tv, phone. She does rangers (Girlguiding) and helps at a guide unit once a week. She is in a bowling club but does that at the weekend. Never goes out spontaneously to see friends in the week.

TumtumTree · 16/10/2021 08:13

Mine is sporty so she plays netball or hockey after school two days a week, plus a match at the weekend. She also sings in the school choir (not very well!). She's finding that in year 9 she gets a lot more homework. She has a little group of friends, they rarely meet up after school but they WhatsApp each other.

aleC4 · 16/10/2021 08:13

Rugby training twice a week, trampolining once, homework, sometimes goes out with friends to the park but less so this time of year, has friends round or goes to theirs- usually a Friday or is on her phone/watching tv.

cheeseisthebest · 16/10/2021 08:14

Homework, cooking, playing with dog, watching telly, sewing, chats with friends, reads. Also has tae kwondo club.

AgnesNaismith · 16/10/2021 08:16

Mine has a club every night and sometimes two - the second is sport related. Back home at 6pm in time for a shower (which seems to take at least 1 1/2 hours), dinner and a chat then either a tv show or homework.

MrsKDB · 16/10/2021 08:53
  1. Homework and a bit of online gaming with her mates. But mainly homework, holds herself to ridiculously high standards however much I tell her it doesn’t matter that much.
GoWalkabout · 16/10/2021 09:09

Homework mostly. Gaming. Crochet. Socialising is once in a while (Saturday going into town, or hanging out with friends after school) rather than often.

Thunderface · 16/10/2021 09:14

My 15 year old gets home around 4.30. She gets a lot of homework so between that, dinner, shower etc. she doesn't have time for much other than watching tv. She goes to music lesson one evening per week. I don't think any of her friends hang out mid-week unless they do a sport together.

brittleheadgirl · 16/10/2021 09:14

My dd used to dance twice a week but on the other days did very little.
Lots of phone time, watching stuff on her laptop and an awful lot of following me around talking endlessly about literally nothing!!!
Really miss it now she's away at uni!

MumofSpud · 16/10/2021 09:18

Dance x 1 night
Guides x 1 night
But she has a p/t job now so
Job x 1 night

She will also go out from school with her friends x 1 evening (but this week was x3)

The rest of the time sleeping (often as soon as she has come in from school)/ on her phone

If I mention revision..... when I was Year 11 I revised from 4pm-bedtime every day (still didn't get fab results though Confused)

LoisWooookersonsLastNerve · 16/10/2021 09:19

FaceTime with friends if she's not out at one of her clubs. They do meet outside at least once a week and walk about, get a Starbucks, cinema etc. She definitely isn't out as much as I was as a teen.

reluctantbrit · 16/10/2021 09:24

DD gets home, something to eat and then dives into homework and revision, the school is asking for at least 2 hours a day school work (Y10).

She has musical theatre and Explorers/Young Leaders with Beavers on the evenings a couple of times a week.

Despite us telling her that friends are welcome after school she never has any over or goes to her friends' houses. That was already before lockdown, I think it's just not the norm anymore. She chats with them on WhatsApp and FaceTimes the ones who don't go to her school.

She may meet with them on weekends to go to Costa or in Summer in the park.

SnowfallSnowball · 16/10/2021 09:29

14 year old DD goes to a boxing class 3 times a week, other times homework, tv, chatting with friends etc.

Echobelly · 16/10/2021 09:33

13 year old does school orchestra one day, mentoring training at synagogue another. On phone/laptop a lot, hangs out with friends a bit too.

AmanitaRubescens · 17/10/2021 09:29

I think if they were only children they’d probably want to spend more time with friends out of the house

Only children are the same as any other child. Some like to stay home, others like to socialise. Some - like my DD - are a happy combination.

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