Positive (?) miscarriage stories please

[Jesskatie1]

Hi, wondering if anyone can share any positive (sorry I known that isn’t the right word) miscarriage stories as I can only seem to find really traumatic stories. I found out last Tuesday that our baby’s heart had stopped beating at 9w 5d, I should have been about 10w and 2d.

I have opted for the natural miscarriage route, however a week later and I’m struggling to get my head around everything because I know it’s not over yet so want to get things moving asap. I am booked in to have medical management tommorow to hopefully speed things along.

Between 6am and 11am this morning I have had awful diarrhoea then this afternoon passed a little bit of clear jelly mucus and had unpleasant lower back ache for a couple of hours now. Could this be the start of something happening?

I have read some awful horror stories of what can happen in a natural miscarriage or medically managed miscarriage and I was just wondering if anyone had any “better” stories? Thank you so much

I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like it may be starting to happen but if not I would personally opt for the medical you are booked in for. If it does happen tonight just keep a close eye on bleeding and if you are losing too much get to hospital. I hope things go smoothly for you and take time to heal mentally and physically

@FlamingoDust thank you for taking the time to respond. I really would prefer for things to happen naturally or with the medical pessary to help speeds things up as I don’t like the thought of a D&C thank you so much!

I had medical - I was 12wk but baby stop at 7wk.
It was very sad but I didn’t find it painful.
I had to wait a week between scans to ensure there wasn’t a mistake on dates etc.
I read so many horrible things I worked myself right up!
Nothing happened for me so I made it to surgery, my preferred shitty option.
The staff were so caring and I remember the nurse rubbed my hand as I was put to sleep it was really comforting.
My recovery was absolutely fine and when I was ready I went on to have a healthy pregnancy who is fast asleep upstairs.
Don’t read anymore! Trust it will be ok.
Thinking of you!

Yeah the thought of a d&c really put me off but after my one with pessary went wrong (not usual for this to happen so please don't worry) I ended up with an emergency d&c with no pain relief and actually it was very manageable and over quite quickly. However it happens you will get though it

I started bleeding at about seven weeks. My GP told me to go home, relax, put my feet up, take time out. I asked if that would help, if it would improve my baby's chance of survival. She said no, but you won't feel like that you did something wrong, like if you'd done things differently your baby would have survived.

Here's the positive bit. I got pregnant really soon afterwards and if I hadn't miscarried then, my DS2, who is one of the most wonderful people I have ever met, wouldn't exist.

I wish you calm, acceptance, and happiness. I hope you have an outcome as happy as mine.

@Flackattack thank you for the lovely response, i’m hoping that the pessary will work and I can go naturally like that. I’m glad to hear that your experience wasn’t as horrific as some stories I have read. We too already have a beautiful daughter who is getting us through! Thank you so much

@AllTheWorldIsGreen so sorry for your previous loss :( but so happy to hear you have gone on to have a beautiful son! Can I ask how your miscarriage was? Did you go naturally? Thank you for your kind words

I miscarried naturally. It was very early. DS1 was assisted conception and if it wasn't for hoping against hope that I would get pregnant naturally I don't think I would have known for sure that I had been pregnant. After DS2 we went in to have a total surprise DS3. They are 17, 15 and 13 and very much part of the furniture these days. It's only when I see threads like this that I remember how traumatic it all was. I wish you all the very best and everything that you hope for.