Confused

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I am so confused. My ex is a drug addict, prescription drugs and diazepam. He lied throughout our whole relationship despite me being very understanding. We are still very much in love and he is trying to get bow if my friends and family knew i was still seeing him they would disown me. I come from a very clean cut family with not even one smoker, so my question is. Am i stupid for hanging around and hoping things get better? Should i call it a day as its not worth my friends and family being dissapointed. I think they are sick of me getting hurt and i know they have my best interests at heart. I just dont know why i cant walk away, we get on so well and he is so caring but when he is under the influence he is a completely different person. He turns into an arrogant twat 🙈. Im in my late 30s now, i should bloomin know better, im just so in love with him. I know what i would tell my friend if she was in this situation.... Run run run. So why am i stuck? Would you stay or would you go? Thanks for reading my stooopid question, im just so confused x

He's not your ex, is he.

Whether you can stick the continued lies, the arrogant twattishness, the chaos and double checking his whereabouts and worrying about the next knock on the door is up to you.

If you decide to stay please don't have children with him, and do have a think about de-linking your finances if they remain entwined.

Well, you can't help him if you love him, or at least love him when he's not on anything. But unfortunately love doesn't equate with happiness. If you stay you know that it's not going to have a happy ending. I expect it is also tough being on your own and starting out again in your late thirties when perhaps most of your friends are seemingly happy and settled down. However, sometimes there is no greater loneliness and heartache than being with the wrong person. As hard as it is walking away, if you stay you are only going to stall the inevitable. This relationship has no happy ending, so why prolong the misery. There are other nice caring men out there.

Thank you for your reply. I really do need to get shot of him, so hearing this is helping. Im such a bloomin empath thats my problem, i get sucked back in and believe everything he says. I just wish i was strong enough to walk away. Thanks again for your reply x

Thats so true I really am delaying the inevitable, i dont want to be in this situation when i hit 40. Plus I have my little son to think about. I need to hear all this guys so thank you deeply for your opinions. I need a good hard push in the direction i want to go in, so your valid points on my rotton situation are really going to help me so much x

Take care.
Empath is a bit of a misnomer or red herring sometimes, a person can fall into I Save People Mode if not careful.

Oh gosh there's a child. Okay just run, the kid comes first.

Thankfully not his. The mad thing is he sold me a complete lie for the first 6 months of our relationship, he had a really good job (worringly in the care sector) no longer in that job as he went in under the influence, which i did not know about at this point. I didnt even know he had a problem, he hid it very well. It wasn't until i went to stay with him for a week when the little one was away on holiday that i noticed he was away with the fairies. Im such an idiot so I am