My child is so clingy when we are at home

[Hogu]

Most days I cope absolutely fine but Some days I feel so claustrophobic from it.
He's 2.9 years old and we have a lovely close relationship but the last few months I've not been able to leave the room without him screaming for me. I can't do any small task like fetching something from another room. Laundry and hoovering is a nightmare and just getting myself a drink has me preparing myself for a while before I do it.

I've tried talking to him, tried just carrying on regardless of him screaming at me but it's not getting any better and today I've felt like screaming myself.

Has anyone else experienced this? I'm starting to feel very drained from it 😔

It's just a phase OP (although an annoying one). Hang in there and this too shall pass!

Laundry, hoovering etc - can he 'help'? You give him his own pile of clothes to fold or whatever?

My DD was like this (and still is a bit). I've learned just to go with it. In theory it will all pay off and they will feel able to be independent when they are older! I don't compromise on what I really need but I try to keep her close.

It's so hard though, it's been a few months now and I'm starting to feel on edge when I want to do something for fear of being screamed at

It's a phase! Give him the vacuum or dustpan and ask him to sweep the dust so you can vacuum it. Laundry, he can help load the machine etc and put a step and a couple of his books in the bathroom.
Eventually they decide they don't want to leave what they're doing to come with you.

Does he not follow you? (also annoying but slightly less so)
Other than that, think you just have to gird your loins and learn to block out the screaming. As long as he is not being physically prevented from coming with you then he does just need to learn that sometimes you leave the room, and then you come back. Sometimes you do something without him, and then you do something with him.

@Smartiepants79 Yes he screams at me to carry him, I can't move an inch without him wanting me to carry him to where I'm going.. the loo, to do some jobs, to blow my nose.. any slight movement and it's war!

He won't play on his own, he's just not interested so nothing is more important than me leaving him to go into the next room.

He does 'help' with cleaning but today it took literally all morning to get the washing in and out the washer x 3. I wish I could get him to play whilst I do a few chores but it just doesn't happen

have you tried the tv?

@PetrifriedPumpkin Yep. Even bought him his own iPad 🙈🙈🙈

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Ah some kids are just like this, it is hard though. My DD was the same. At 3.5 she still often does this but obviously not all the time. She still barely plays alone, only a few mins here or there. I just get on with things more now that she's older and she clearly understands where I am, what I'm doing etc and ignore it and sometimes she calms down herself after a few mins and starts playing by herself. But that's a recent phenomenon, at your child's age the only thing that would keep her quiet for a few mins was TV.

😂😂

If it's any consolation, during lockdown DH asked why I was announcing to the room at large that I was going to the loo/do the laundry/take the bins out. I stopped. Then got very annoyed the DC kept disturbing him to ask where I was They were 8 &10!

Is this the separation anxiety phase? All dc go through it. It is why mum announces she is off to change her cardigan. Even when dc are 20.

It's a phase, and they go in and out of it. My DS (who is 5) is currently in a won't-be-left-alone phase, and has to come everywhere with me or DH (even while 2 year old DD plays happily on her own). I am just riding it out... I know he will come out of it again!