Nursery party etiquette

[BabyRace]

It's dd's birthday next month, and we have invited 3 of her friends from nursery to our house for a mini party. I am in a watsapp group with their mums and a few others, including a mum whose dd is in a different room, but also has a birthday around the same time.

Dd doesn't know her dd as she is in a different room and is younger. However, she is planning a party for the same weekend. I like her and don't want to feel like her/her DD have been excluded when she finds out because other children from the group are busy. It's literally only because dd doesn't know her. She asked for three friends and that's who we've invited.

Should I mention the party to her & explain or leave it?

Same day? Would it clash? I wouldn’t bring it up. I’m sure there’s an unwritten rule that people don’t talk about parties to people who weren’t there.

I'd leave it.

Leave it. Your daughter is in a different room and younger than hers and you’re having three friends over not hundreds of people. Perfectly normal and appropriate, don’t make it seem abnormal by drawing her attention to it.

Definitely same weekend but not sure if it would be the same day. I'll leave it but I feel bad.

If your DD doesn't know her as in different room, do the children you've invited even know her?

People are always having parties on the same day or weekend as other people. It's not an unusual thing.

@moonshine3600

If your DD doesn't know her as in different room, do the children you've invited even know her?

Yes, she asked for three children so those were the ones invited. Their mums are in the WA group but there are also other parents we have got chatting to in the pick up queue.