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Partner in mental health unit & on unpaid leave

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SussexGirl57 · 12/10/2021 16:55

I'm asking for a male friend of mine who is in a dire situation at the moment. His partner has post partum psychosis and is currently in a mental health unit. They have a 2 year old and a 9 month old. The psychosis started after the birth of the youngest. She has been in the unit for a month and based on her current review there isn't any signs of improvement and she'll be there for the foreseeable future. It's impossible to tell how long this will go on for.

They moved into a housing association home in February and my friend struggled for work throughout Covid and managed to get a job as a delivery driver for a supermarket chain. He is currently on unpaid leave and in his current position he can't go back to work. The children need him and he has no family support close by. He is doing his best but after visiting him at the weekend I can see he is struggling. He is a brilliant, loving Dad but this is a really tough situation. He is doing his best but he needs some support. I felt so sad when I went home.

He's basically run out money. I think pride may be holding him back from seeking help - council, food banks etc but the question is, what can he do? What help is available for someone in this situation, if any? If I can point him in the right direction maybe he'll reach out for the help.

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dementedpixie · 12/10/2021 17:05

Has he applied for universal credit?

HollowTalk · 12/10/2021 17:08

What a horrible situation he's in. I hope his partner makes a full recovery.

Could the children go to nursery so that he could work? Perhaps he could contact Citizens' Advice for help?

FleasInMyKnees · 12/10/2021 17:15

He can look up the benefits calculator to see what financial help he can claim, he should contact the h.a. to see if they offer any help. Is his partner entitled to any benefits. He should get universal credit, child support plus there may be extra.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 12/10/2021 17:22

Poor family, my heart goes out to them. He obviously can't carry on on unpaid leave so I guess he needs to leave his job and claim all the benefits he can. This is what our social security system is for. Yes, go to a food bank if necessary. If he needs things for the children he can put out a call on his local Facebook Group or Freecycle. People are always very generous with outgrown baby stuff. When things improve I'm sure he will be able to pick up similar work again but right now his partner and children need him to be present.

tatyr · 12/10/2021 17:30

www.dadsmatteruk.org/

He might find support via Dad's Matter, it is primarily a service for father's with post natal anxiety/depression/PTSD etc, and while this might not seem immediately relevant, it could well be, and might be useful for signposting to other services

CorrBlimeyGG · 12/10/2021 17:42

Are you sure that they're not already in receipt of UC or tax credits? As a low income family they'd be entitled even while he worked.

The mental health unit should have access to a benefits adviser who can help them as a family.

timtam23 · 12/10/2021 17:53

Could the children's Health Visitor help at all, or they may be able to signpost him to somewhere who could help?
And there may already be a social worker allocated to the children, if so they may be able to help or advise him.
And I'm sure he would be able to request a Carer's Assessment regarding his own needs being met while he is supporting his partner - if his partner already has a worker allocated from the community mental health team they should be able to help with this, or if not he could ring the ward and ask the ward staff

SussexGirl57 · 12/10/2021 18:03

@dementedpixie

Has he applied for universal credit?
The way he explained it to me was that he applied recently but they don't qualify yet as he recently got this last payment from work. They should get some next time but it only covers the nursery fees for the 2 year old. She goes two days a week.
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CorrBlimeyGG · 12/10/2021 18:10

If he has no income then they will get more than the nursery fees covered.

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