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I don’t know what to do, need advice ASAP please!

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SolitaryTree · 12/10/2021 16:14

Maybe this isn’t something I should be asking for advice on here for but I really need it!
My eldest son has a college open evening to attend this evening and is meeting two friends from school to attend with.
Do I let him go without me? I don’t want to get in the way but I would like to go.
We went to the college open evening last week where he is realistically going to attend, he’s in a stem school and it covers years 10,11 and 2 college years and he wants to study 4 things which are all available to do there and there is an option to do certificate in one and then the other 3.
He is looking at other colleges in the area to make sure he’s making the best choice and also to have the best second option but I do think he knows where he’s going already. He’s said that he’s 99% going to attend the college at his school and he is well on track to be accepted grade wise.
Anyway, sorry if this is rambly, I just thought it might give context.
Do I go anyway and meet with his two friends with him or do I let him go with his two friends and not go with them?!
Is it a usual thing for teenagers to look around college open evenings without a parent?
I’d feel so gutted not to go but if it’s a normal thing I don’t want to be overbearing just because it’s what I want.

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Fifthtimelucky · 12/10/2021 16:20

I'd go together and split up when he meets his friends, so you look round separately. Then meet up again an hour or so later and compare notes.

QuestionEverythingBaby · 12/10/2021 16:21

I went with all my DC and the majority of kids were with their parents but there were quite a few who were with friends. I’d say if he wants to go without you then let him, it’s the age we need to start stepping back a bit. Just give him a mental list of things to find out.

SolitaryTree · 12/10/2021 16:35

@Fifthtimelucky they’re knocking on our door at 5pm and coming with us (catching the bus, not driving, I don’t drive).
@QuestionEverythingBaby I’m not generally interfering (I hope!) I love to do things with him and I’m very lucky that he still loves to do things with me (again I hope 🤣 but he seems to and actively asks as much I suggest things) but he equally likes to have his friends over and go out to play football, cinema, day trips with friends etc.
I just feel like it would be unsupportive of me not to go, plus I am genuinely interested to look around and chat to potential teachers.
I’m so unsure of what to do!

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Fifthtimelucky · 12/10/2021 16:38

Go on the bus with them, separate when you get there for a while, and meet up to discuss later. You might want to go back to see some bits together. If not, just go home!

ILiedAboutBeingTheOutdoorType · 12/10/2021 17:02

I'd go (unless he really desperately doesn't want you to) and look around on your own while he looks round with friends. Maybe sit separately on the bus.

QuestionEverythingBaby · 12/10/2021 20:18

Maybe sit separately on the bus.

My teens would die of embarrassment if I got the bus with them 🤣😂🤣
Glad your DS doesn't mind OP.

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