Is He Leaving

[Isheleaving]

Myself and my husband have been going through a bad patch in our marriage, although things have got better recently, as we’ve been communicating more. However, I have a feeling that he is planning on leaving me, he’s saying strange things he wouldn’t normally say, giving me items back to give to my family members, sorting through suitcases and other things. I just have this strong suspicion he is going to up and leave. What do you think?

So sorry isheleaving but I’d be suspicious and get copying important documents eg his pension statement, wage slips/P60 etc. Keep an eye on the joint account.

Only as security- I regretted not doing it when I had my suspicions and ex left. He left clothes etc but took all his paperwork, and then tried to hide how much he earned/had in pensions etc when we got divorced.

Sorry OP,it does sound like it, particularly as he's now being more communicative. He might be being nicer so as to not give you suspicions but clearly he's sorting his stuff out .

Yes to getting paperwork in order.

Definitely get your paperwork in order now. Will you be happy if he goes or sad? Do you have children together?

Get your paperwork sorted and move any sentimental things to a safe place.
He may be more communicative as he has made a decision.

Thanks for the replies. Yes we have children together (3) and I would be sad because we’ve managed to get through a lot together and we seemed to have come through the other side. He has denied that he’s leaving but he asked me how I’d feel if he left.

Sorry, but it does look/sound like he's getting his ducks in a row, sadly you need to get yours in a row too.

As awful as the thought is, you will be OK! Look after yourself x

The fact he asked how you'd feel if he left shows it's definitely there in his mind and he's gauging how difficult it's going to be. I'd echo other pps in saying sort out your financials and prepare yourself. Hope you're ok and you have family/friends support.

How old are the children?