Clingy best friend

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Am I terrible?
So, me and my best friend live in the same street, we've been friends for around 6 years. We used to go on double dates and everything but a few years ago her and her boyfriend broke up.

I got married and had 3 kids, work full time, and yet my best friend won't leave me alone. I love her, but she'll knock on my door at like 10pm wanting a chat, then she won't leave till after 2am, which is annoying because the kids are upstairs and I have work in the morning.

When we can get a babysitter, me and my husband like to go out for a meal and drink, spend some time together, but my best friend still tags along.

She has anxiety and i get she's going through things, but surely there has to be a limit, right? My husband is getting annoyed about it now, we've booked to go on a family holiday next year and she wants to know the exact date and hotel so she can come along too.

What do I say, or am I just being a terrible friend?

No you are not terrible. I love my best friend dearly but could not do the unannounced drops and staying to all hours, I would not put up with her tagging along for dates especially if we had paid for a babysitter and holidays and tagging along to your family holiday uninvited is just weird. I would start with the nights out and just tell her you need some one on one time with your husband. If this was me if I didn’t sort it I would be risking my marriage as it would really annoy him. Could you suggest a girly night out instead? For the turning up to the house thing I would put my pj’s on early and just say you were just going to bed.

"I'm really sorry but this doesn't work for me!"

"As I've already mentioned, this will NOT work for us!!!"

Et cetera, et cetera.

Yikes. That would stress me out. Stop opening the door.

On the family holiday !

I wouldn’t open the door!
She sounds extremely thick skinned.

You have to tell people straight about imposing on you , friend or not, If people haven't the common sense to realise that this behaviour might annoy you, then no use making all sorts of excuses to try and stop things, just saying straight up is needed. This person is overstepping, and you are getting annoyed about it.