Dont know what to make of it

[Annoymouser2]

At work theres this man i dont know to well, just from around the building, sometimes he comes to the part i work in and always comes up to me and says things like 'youre working hard' and things similar then rubs my back or squeezss my shoulder. No other male does it in there. I dont know if he does it with other women as dont pay attention but it throws me a bit. Is this normal in places of work that people you dont know just randomly touch you that way?

He is inappropriate and needs to stop.

Tell him to stop touching you, it's not welcome, if he does it again you will report him.

Sleaze

You tell him to stop touching you, right?

No it's not normal. It's inappropriate and if you haven't already told him not to touch you, do it next time he does it. And report if he does it again.

I thought so. I dont like being touched and dont want to draw attention to it because it was maybe nothing and people thinking im over reacting.

FFS, tell him clearly and loudly to stop touching you.

@Aquamarine1029

FFS, tell him clearly and loudly to stop touching you.

OP is asking because maybe her workplace has created an environment where she is second guessing her own boundaries. Not need to get snippy with her.

What a complete sleaze your colleague is

@Annoymouser2

I thought so. I dont like being touched and dont want to draw attention to it because it was maybe nothing and people thinking im over reacting.

This is why we women have been putting up with this shit for so long.

He has absolutely no right to be touching you at all. It's your body, not his plaything. He might be appearing to give you a compliment before a back rub (boak) but it's just his way of making it appear okay to be doing that.

It's not okay. Say no. Report

People shouldn’t be touching each other. Certainly if they don’t know each other.

In the pre covid times I don’t think anyone had put a hand on me except a colleague (i know well) on my arm to get my attention. And even then we are both female and straight. Nobody would dream of invading anyone’s personal space nowadays.

Sounds creepy or over friendly. Either way if you feel uncomfortable you should totally say something.

Br blunt.

Is there a reason you are touching me?
Hands off please
Stop. Just stop

Etc

If he does it again ill complain