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There are kind people in the world.

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Jackthementalkitten · 09/10/2021 17:53

I went too Tesco earlier, I only took £20 with me ( stupidly forgot my card) I’d worked out that the bill was around £19, went too pay was £23. I was stood with my daughter feeling absolutely bloody mortified, telling the cashier too take some items out. A lady at the next till walked past, out s giver in my hand and told me to buy myself all the shopping. I’ve never been so grateful in my life at this kindness. I managed to shout thank you so much. As cheesy as it sounds, it’s given me faith in people again. Has anyone else ever had a stranger be kind too then?

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lifehappened · 13/10/2021 05:22

Lols, let's stop engaging with that turnip. Proper weirdo! Ahh these stories warm my heart 🥰

Riddo · 13/10/2021 05:38

My elderly recently bereaved father paid for a bunch of flowers for the woman in front of him in the queue who didn't have enough cash for them. She was enormously grateful and it cheered him to have an opportunity to be kind.

Queenie6655 · 13/10/2021 05:41

@Blossomsbloom

In Scotland in my teens with a friend and missed the last coach back to London (waited at wrong location!) Two elderly ladies were waiting for a coach to Glasgow bus station, we got chatting and told them what happened. When their coach arrived they told the driver he had to let us on free and get us to the bus station to wait for the morning coach. He was fuming but knew better than to argue with them 😂 and let us on. They gave us both a pound note each which paid for a McDonald's burger meal then! So we sat all night in Glasgow bus station and had a McDonald's. Ive never forgotten their kindness as a scared teenager.

@TurnUpTurnip would you not want someone to help your children if they were in a similar situation? Would you rather they were just left stranded?
Rather than teach your children not to accept anything from strangers for fear of grooming why not teach them the difference between the two?
Offering to pay for the difference in someone's shopping is very different to randomly buying a pair of trainers for a child. One is in need, the other isn't.
Also, would you never help someone in need then if that's your view? Very sad if so.

Love this story

People like this make my heart happy 😊

BlueberrySugar · 13/10/2021 05:50

@TurnUpTurnip has had a really tough time on here all because they said they wouldn't accept the gift. Give them a break. Most of you on here should be ashamed of yourselves. Most of you have pounced on this person and turned into a punch of bullies.

If they don't want to accept the gift, that's that.
Why on MN is it always 'oh, think of how the other person might feel' just stop.

Absolutely agree with you TurnUp about the grooming. What can be seen as a simple 'gift' can easily turn into grooming.

sashh · 13/10/2021 06:39

Due to the pandemic and closest family being key workers my 83 year old dad was alone for Christmas for the first time in his life.

He went to take an Xmas card to the neighbours opposite who he is on nodding terms with and was asked if he wanted a Xmas dinner which they delivered to him.

Yes there are kind people.

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 13/10/2021 06:40

Its so sad that a kindness from stranger gets rebuffed because of fears of grooming.

TurnUpTurnip · 13/10/2021 08:23

[quote BlueberrySugar]@TurnUpTurnip has had a really tough time on here all because they said they wouldn't accept the gift. Give them a break. Most of you on here should be ashamed of yourselves. Most of you have pounced on this person and turned into a punch of bullies.

If they don't want to accept the gift, that's that.
Why on MN is it always 'oh, think of how the other person might feel' just stop.

Absolutely agree with you TurnUp about the grooming. What can be seen as a simple 'gift' can easily turn into grooming. [/quote]
Thank you, I know MN is so vicious at times! Why can’t people accept that sometimes people think differently? It doesn’t start with expensive trainers, it starts with offering to buy ice creams and small gifts, someone gave my children a bag of sweets on the bus a few years ago and they went straight in the bin, if I then then afford and accept money off strangers it’s going against what I’ve told them not to do. Tbh I would really rather someone didn’t offer, it’s awkward and puts someone on the spot, I would rather pretend people didn’t notice, if the op had already spend £19 then it obviously wasn’t her last pound.

AgnesPerdita · 13/10/2021 08:48

I will always remember the lady who helped me with my shopping in Asda. I had a newborn and had forgotten to put my purse in my changing bag. I had called my DH to bring it to me as he was nearby but the checkout assistant was so rude that he reduced me to tears. The lady behind me told him sharply that he needed to stop and to buck up his ideas a bit as these things happen. Then she helped me to pack while we waited for DH to arrive. I tried to pay for her lunch bits but she declined.

I have often helped people out where possible. From sitting with the boy who had just had a bad knock on his bike until the ambulance arrived and calling his mum for him to helping my elderly neighbours with shopping and gardening pre and during lockdown.

Kindness makes the world better so why wouldn't you?

sashh · 13/10/2021 09:38

Thank you, I know MN is so vicious at times! Why can’t people accept that sometimes people think differently? It doesn’t start with expensive trainers, it starts with offering to buy ice creams and small gifts, someone gave my children a bag of sweets on the bus a few years ago and they went straight in the bin, if I then then afford and accept money off strangers it’s going against what I’ve told them not to do. Tbh I would really rather someone didn’t offer, it’s awkward and puts someone on the spot, I would rather pretend people didn’t notice, if the op had already spend £19 then it obviously wasn’t her last pound.

Bloody hell OP

I'm disabled and do all my shopping on line but when I was more mobile I did some of my shopping myself. I often got the shopping in my car and was in too much pain to take the trolley back.

A few times I have asked an adult with children (and I always ask the adult not the child) to take the trolley back for me and keep the £1 coin.

It keeps the car park tidy, it gives the child (or children) a small treat for helping me out.

sashh · 13/10/2021 09:54

I mean @TurnUpTurnip not OP sorry

Mrtumblessecretlovechild · 13/10/2021 10:01

Dd was a baby and we were on the same bus stop as the local secondary school at kicking out time. Uniform fairly distinctive and different ties for different year groups (this bit is relevant)

Kids all pushing and shoving to get on the bus first until this lad tells them all 'to stop acting like fucking pricks and let the missus and babby get on first'. It was like the parting of the red sea, just with teenage boys instead.

I emailed the school and they were able to identify the boy involved. I was later told the lad got a special headteachers citizenship award.

Helocariad · 13/10/2021 10:10

I agree with PP, I've experienced kindness from strangers over the years, from all ages and 'types'. I love the stories about the guy with the mohican and the two ladies travelling back to Glasgow.

Mine is after a walk and desperate for some lunch & loo, going into a rough looking pub in rural Wales with OH and small baby DD. Conversation stops and we get stared at. Pub lunch arrives and DD starts to cry. Really rough looking bloke with facial tattoos walks up to us and offers to hold DD so we can eat. He then walks around with her, cooed over by his mates . They didn't bat an eyelid either when I then breastfed DD.

Bbq1 · 13/10/2021 10:19

[quote BlueberrySugar]**@TurnUpTurnip has had a really tough time on here all because they said they wouldn't accept the gift. Give them a break. Most of you on here should be ashamed of yourselves. Most of you have pounced on this person and turned into a punch of bullies.

If they don't want to accept the gift, that's that.
Why on MN is it always 'oh, think of how the other person might feel' just stop.

Absolutely agree with you TurnUp about the grooming. What can be seen as a simple 'gift' can easily turn into grooming. [/quote]
@BlackberrySugar,
@TurnUpTurnip
Do you both genuinely not understand the difference between grooming and a selfless act of kindness?

Snowdropsandbluebells · 13/10/2021 10:20

This actually happened to me once ! I was so touched by the kindness.

TurnUpTurnip · 13/10/2021 10:24

I understand, I’m saying kids don’t! And if I’m teaching my kids not to do something I will lead by example. Thought that was obvious 🙄🤦🏻

EventOfTheSeason · 13/10/2021 10:33

We were out the other day and a lady appeared while I was getting ready to take a photo of dh and dd, she offered to take one of the 3 of us. Small gesture but lovely for us.

TheAverageUser · 13/10/2021 10:43

My son was taken to ICU and we were following the ambulance. When we arrived we ditched the car in closest car park (didn't know the area) and ran in. The car ended up there for about 10 or so days before the panic calmed a bit and I remembered we had a car. It's a capital city and the bill was unbelievable. I told the parking guy the situation and could he give us a discount and he said he wasn't allowed. I said ok, I was still in shock and I think I just stood by the car for a while doing nothing. I heard him come behind me and he handed me a new ticket and said I could leave saying "I have a heart". I cried for a while, it was the only nice thing to happen for those 10 days and no idea how we'd have paid for that and hotels and food (Covid one in one out). Should have thanked him more but I was in shock still.

wonkylegs · 13/10/2021 11:07

I was given use of a pretty decent discount as a kindness on my shop by someone I know (not well but for a long time), I didn't need it but she was insistent so I made sure the next shop I added just over the same value of items which I then gave to the food bank.
She felt good for helping me, I felt good playing that kindness forward to somebody who really needed it.

SweetMeadow · 13/10/2021 11:08

These are such heart warming stories.

One thing that has stayed with me and was much needed at the time was the kind words of a stranger just after I’d been scolded by the lady at the til in M&S for letting my newborn get hungry. It was one of my first visits out after giving birth and DD was crying and the lady assumed she was hungry. It massively knocked my (limited!) confidence and as I clumsily struggled to breastfeed her in the cafe soon after, a kind lady came up to me with a glass of water and said ‘your baby is beautiful but so are you and you are just as important’. I don’t know if she witnessed my upset earlier but of all the things I needed to hear at that time, that was perfect! Makes me feel emotional just remembering it! I wish more people would say such lovely things to new mothers, even a reassuring smile means so much!

LadyCatStark · 13/10/2021 11:11

@TurnUpTurnip

That’s nice but I wouldn’t have accepted

Why not?? It feels nice to do a good deed so I’m sure the lady who gave the fiver felt good about it too. It’s nice to be nice.

HopingForOurRainbowBaby · 13/10/2021 11:25

@EllieSattler

DD used to get out of the car and not shut the door, and I wouldn't notice because I was wrestling DS out of his baby seat (DD was on the far side from our front door).

On two separate occasions, teenage boys from the local secondary school knocked on my front door to inform me that my car door was lying wide open I thought that was very kind, and brave of them to knock the door of a total stranger to do them a favour.

I ran into the local supermarket in between calls one day and locked the car as I was walking away from it. What I hadn't realised was my door hadn't shut properly meaning my car wouldn't lock. Got back to find some kind gentleman and his little boy stood next to my car waiting for me to get back before they went into the shop because they didn't want anyone to get into it. Although apparently it would appear I'm pretty determined to have my car nicked because I also have an awful habit of leaving the keys in the ignition and walking away 🤦🏼‍♀️

Kummerspeck · 13/10/2021 11:40

@TurnUpTurnip

I understand, I’m saying kids don’t! And if I’m teaching my kids not to do something I will lead by example. Thought that was obvious 🙄🤦🏻

Surely you realise that you need to teach your children the difference between a simple act of kindness and grooming. There is a difference between engaging with others in society in positive ways and naivety. It is rather sad that you are teaching them such a negative view of the world

TurnUpTurnip · 13/10/2021 11:44

Kids aren’t always good at spotting the difference so yes I do think just a blanket “no thanks” is the best, or do you think grooming doesn’t happen to “smart” children and only happens to a certain type of child, it can happen to anyone 🙄 besides my children have additional needs so would find it harder to tell the difference, I think we can drop it now it’s getting boring just accept some people have different views to yours.

Hoppinggreen · 13/10/2021 11:45

@TurnUpTurnip

Not being rude just saying I would have put something back, I wouldn’t have taken it personally.

That would probably have been quite embarrassing for The kind lady who offered to help and rather ungracious

Xmasfairy86 · 13/10/2021 11:50

Noticed a woman running to the next bus stop, she’d clearly missed it at the station. She was never going to make the next stop before the bus. The bus slowed, and pulled over so she could get on.
I was walking my child to school at the time and said how kind it was of the driver.

It’s the small things.

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