How to address bullying

[Ree17]

My som has started reception this September. He is very loud full of life and confident. His been reporting to me and teachers that a boy in particular is hitting him for no apparent reason, this is stated from teachers too. They have had a word with the boys parents and keeping an eye out for any further incidents… today my son was very down and told us his been his with a hoop on his back and cried the teachers put an ice pack and told off the boy who did it (same boy everytime)! I never got the chance to speak with his tutor however i am so annoyed and in the right frame of mind to pulling the boys mother over on monday to have a chat… not sure if thats a good idea… need help what to do

So sorry to hear this. I had similar withy son a few years back and it's awful feeling so I can truly sympathise. I'd suggest speaking to the tutor and not approaching the mum. It's absolutely not acceptable for your son to be hurt and upset so you really need to talk to the school as they have a duty of care to your son and must take steps to prevent this happening.

I have spoken to the teacher previously And she did state they keeping an eye out, they also have spoke to the boys parents as his done it to few children.
But he obvs is continuing to do it.

I told my son to hit him back not sure if thats the right thing to do… but i had to tell him to defend himself. Enrolled him on kickboxing to build his confidence. I wish to speak to the teachers on monday and if it continues il be having words with the head. But not sure how they will be nipping it in the bud…

It doesn't stop your DS getting hurt, but I don't think it is helpful to call this bullying when the other child is 4 / recently 5.
The other child is more likely to be hitting out due to not being able to emotionally regulate.
Your DS shouldn't hit back unless in self defence but should tell an adult every single time.

Don't bother talking to his teacher again, go to the head and ask them what exactly they are going to do to protect your son, as clearly "keeping an eye on the boy" isn't working. I would look up the schools anti bullying policy so you know what they should be doing. Also having a list of days and the injuries your son has had, will help the head to understand quite how bad things are.
If they suggest moving your sons class or keeping your ds in at break time insist that the violent child is the 1 that has to be moved and/or loses his break as your child is the victim not the perpetrator and as such should not be punished. Be very clear that the school is failing in its duty to safeguard your child.
If that doesn't work then you go above the head to the school governors detailing the ongoing issues and the schools inability to protect your ds.
Do not approach the other child's parents it will backfire on you. Do contact the head every single time your son is hurt and take pictures of every single injury. If the school is a good 1 this will be delt with very quickly if not I suggest moving him to a different 1.
I have been where you are now and for a while and was classed by the school as 1 of those parents until I showed the head the photos of his injuries (since last meeting with the head) the head was horrified and removed the boy from class and he lost all break/playground time. This did stop my ds being hurt but didn't stop the violence from the boy in question he just found new victims and ended up being permanently removed from the school.
Good luck

They are 4/5 however its been going on for weeks and my son who is very very confident has been very down over these weeks. I don’t want to wait any longer then Monday to address this. Thank you for your advice i will be taking this matter to the head.