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Would you contact the school about this?

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CaptainChannel · 08/10/2021 07:54

My DC are in a local village primary school. We are happy with the school on the whole, I like the headteacher and both DC are settled and happy there (they joined in the summer term last year as we returned from abroad).
DD is year 4. 5 weeks into the term she has told us about three incidents of children throwing objects. 1st incident a child got angry, punched another student then started throwing pillows and books around. They had to have an 'emergency' playtime while this was sorted and they boy calmed down.
Last week, a different child threw a chair over his head across the room. It luckily didn't hit anyone. Yesterday the class had a supply teacher. The same child threw a doorstop which hit another child on the head. This is all in the 5 weeks since the start of term. She is a reliable and well behaved girl, I don't think she is making it up.
Now, I am a teacher. I understand that some children have additional needs and can be impulsive and anger quickly. I understand that managing behaviour is difficult.
I can't help feeling a little worried about it, however, as I would be very cross if DD got injured by a flying object. DH would like to contact the school to express our concerns and be reassured that they can keep the children safe, but I wonder if there is little point, as what can they do other than sanction the child appropriately/contact parents.
WWYD? Any point in expressing concerns over this or do we just leave it to the staff to handle it in the best way the can?

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CaptainChannel · 08/10/2021 15:49

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I'm not being aggressive at all., I'm pointing out that the more evidence they collect adds weight to the argument for (hopefully) receiving additional help The OPshouldn't have to move her child.. She has every right to contact the school to get confirmation of what practices are in place to keep her child safe You appear to think it's pointless, in my opinion it's not Evacuating a class of children quite serious.
I guess this is what I want. I want the child to receive extra support so my daughter's risk of injury will be reduced.
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MissyB1 · 08/10/2021 15:58

Yes do contact them, I am a TA and parents expressing concerns can help get the child the extra help they might need. And of course you need to be an advocate for your own child.

SkyLarkDescending · 08/10/2021 15:59

Yes they will be able to use your concern as evidence for further support. Definitely contact them.

Plantstrees · 08/10/2021 16:09

This is common in some of our local primary schools. I have heard that the situation has become worse since covid lockdowns etc and the primary near me often has to evacuate other children from the classroom whilst the violent child is dealt with. My understanding is that it takes time to get the necessary support to these challenging children. I do think you should express your concerns to the school as it all helps.

EmeraldShamrock · 08/10/2021 16:12

I would ask questions too.
My DS was the unpredictable DC he has an SNA monitoring his every more.
Your DC's safety comes first.

bizboz · 08/10/2021 16:13

Raise your concerns. I'm a primary school teacher. We are constantly told there is no money for additional adults to support children with behaviour issues and the teachers just have to deal with it, even if this is to the detriment of . If more parents raise concerns, there is more likelihood that SLT will feel they have to put more steps in place to support the teacher, the class and the pupils with additional needs.

bizboz · 08/10/2021 16:14

Sorry, that should say to the detriment of all concerned.

TheChip · 08/10/2021 16:15

Definitely express your concerns. Your dd should be safe and feel safe when in school, as you well know.

We had an aggressive child in nursery, who had additional needs and really didn't understand the impact of his behaviour. But a number of children were hurt. We knew he needed 1:1 but didn't have the staff to do it. After a few complaints from parents, we got the staff.

So if nobody is speaking up, then the school themselves may not be in a position to request additional support iykwim.

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