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Help me think this through..

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PinkCricket · 07/10/2021 05:52

After 12 years working on a zero hour contract but only working a few sessions a week I've interviewed for a Real Job. I'd appreciate anyone who fancies helping me think it all through.

I get anxious and I've just suddenly got really anxious about it if I get it.

It would mean afterschool club 3 days a week for one child which in our area is a bit unusual (lots of parents work hours to be able to pick up or have family care). For secondary child it means being home til 5 alone 2 days a week (a club 3rd day).

It means for most of the week I wont "be there" for them to do afterschool snack and listen to them. And eldest does get anxious (autistic.) I'm v aware in mumsnet lots of parents do this and work full time etc. Its just not been our reality and I have loved being able to be there so its a change for us all.

I also have chronic fatigue and get tired easily. But it is 3 contained days (rather than the sporadic zero hours contract) and I could rest on the 4th.

I've lost a lot of confidence and am really anxious about potentially returning to A Proper Job. I was v academic and sailed through uni. But "getting it right" socially and at work makes me (very) anxious especially after all this time out. Im doubting whether Id manage it and manage kids too with anxiety/fatigue. But conversely the routine and purpose might really help!

Financially covid hit us and husbands earning is reduced. We are not a high income family and me earning in this role would make a big difference.

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Anycolourwilldo · 07/10/2021 06:58

Congratulations on the job offer.
I honestly think you'll find that there will be plenty of children using wrap around care. You just won't have noticed it because you've been using typical school drop off and pick up times. I don't think it's area dependant.
I don't think you've got anything to lose to be honest. Give it a go. If it's awful and you miss your old routine, quit.
Your kids will be fine either way.

Anycolourwilldo · 07/10/2021 07:01

Sorry, I realise I'm not being sensitive to your anxiety. It must be hard. But change is difficult and unsettling. And aren't all the best things in life quite scary and unsettling though?

LawnFever · 07/10/2021 07:03

If the after school club exists then plenty of kids must be in it, it’ll be a change but it’s really very common and it’s only three days out of the week.

Good luck with the job!

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PinkCricket · 07/10/2021 07:52

No there really arent many, at least not on a regular basis. I know the few who are! Its new provision onsite run by TAs (which is brilliant!) Before there were 3 or 4 shipped by minibus to a sister school as my child occassionally used this for my previous work. There are a couple of childminders too. My daughter could be only child "staying late" as she was when we used the provision before.

That wasn't massively the point though as I'm very aware that areas vary . In higher earning/city areas full time working would be the norm etc, It was more to give background on how I've experienced life so far! And the change for us. To be honest now they have the provision onsite thats less of a worry as she wasn't keen on being bussed - however my older child may struggle with letter herself in and being home til 5.

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