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Moments that took you aback

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FuckingFabulous · 06/10/2021 15:58

And you still revisit years later.

Mine- I was a 26 year old mother of two. First ever playschool trip where the parents jolly along to the farm with the kids. There was a mum there that I was friends with. The only one, as it was quite a snooty and cliquey village, but our kids liked each other, so that meant we spoke to one another. I had a teething, colicky baby strapped to the front of me and a clingy pre schooler on my hip. Pre schooler finally went off with the staff to pet some chicks and ducklings and we parents were allowed to get a coffee and rest our ears from fifty billion questions and whinges. The baby finally fell asleep after having me up all night, and so I was really looking forward to a hot drink and a slice of cake. My mum friend had been clucking sympathetically at me while my baby was fussing and I'd appreciated the solidarity. I offered to get coffee for us both. She accepted and then was umming and ahhing over whether or not she wanted cake, so I bought two slices and brought them back, feeling like I was doing something really nice for someone who had been nice to me, especially since I only really had £10 to my name.

She looked at me like I'd spat in her drink and shrilled out, really loudly "I can't eat cake, you silly cow!! I'm on weight watchers!!" Really took the wind out of my sails. I was just stunned. She took her coffee that I had paid for and sat with some other mums who loudly discussed saboteurs and how I looked like I could do with less cake myself. My baby was 11 weeks old. I couldn't eat either slice of cake, I was so shaky and upset. She wouldn't sit with me on the way back and never really spoke to me again.

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Geamhradh · 06/10/2021 16:04

You sat with a group of people who loudly said you could do with losing weight?
Actually sat there in front of you and said it? And she found that so repulsive she refused to sit next to you?

nellyburt · 06/10/2021 16:09

Well she was a bitch and you had a lucky escape.

I used to revisit the fact a 'friend' hissed at me at my wedding that 'I didn't know what I was talking about' when I mentioned something about another wedding she had been to. It was a nothing comment about how lovely it was and not worth a rude response to the bride. She has a lot of issues and I distanced myself after that day, she was and is a deeply unhappy person.

I saw her recently at a mutual friends party and she seemed a lot better but is still self absorbed.

FuckingFabulous · 06/10/2021 16:23

@Geamhradh

You sat with a group of people who loudly said you could do with losing weight? Actually sat there in front of you and said it? And she found that so repulsive she refused to sit next to you?
No, there were five big old picnic tables that could sit about a dozen people each. She and I were sitting at one with another couple of mums who I didn't know. She absolutely freaked out when I bought her the cake, snatched up the coffee and walked three benches over and sat with another group who then loudly discussed weight loss saboteurs and their jealousy, and then did loud stagey whispers about my weight. The other two mums looked uncomfortable and one said to me "ignore it, they're witches." But I just sat there feeling shaky and like I was in a playground being bullied with nowhere to actually go because I was on a fucking school trip as a parent!!
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FuckingFabulous · 06/10/2021 16:25

And I assume that the not sitting with me is that she decided I was trying to sabotage her weight watchers she had never mentioned by buying her the cake she had definitely mentioned wanting

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HollowTalk · 06/10/2021 16:32

Is anyone else hoping that woman gained loads of weight during lockdown?

Homemadearmy · 06/10/2021 16:35

At my sister wedding a few years ago a relative asked why I was still single. My new brother in law replied that it was because no one wanted me. I get that he was most probably joking as we do get on. But it just felt so mean and it still upsets me all these years later. He wasn't wrong nobody is interested. As they say the truth hurts

YouTubeAddict · 06/10/2021 16:38

What a cow and possibly the most bonkers thing I’ve read on here. Not sure I’ve got anything to rival that really. I had someone who turned out to be a frenemy but you kind of had to be there to see what she was doing. To explain it just sounds petty which is annoying 😂

FuckingFabulous · 06/10/2021 16:42

@HollowTalk I moved from that village about a decade ago. The crying, teething baby is now as tall as me, and I still revisit this moment of cake anger from time to time! But I did actually see said woman crossing the road a few months ago and let's just say she is certainly no smaller than she was back then.

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FuckingFabulous · 06/10/2021 16:43

@Homemadearmy

At my sister wedding a few years ago a relative asked why I was still single. My new brother in law replied that it was because no one wanted me. I get that he was most probably joking as we do get on. But it just felt so mean and it still upsets me all these years later. He wasn't wrong nobody is interested. As they say the truth hurts
That's very mean. Very mean indeed
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PingoPingoPingoPingoPingoPong · 06/10/2021 16:43

Jesus wept, please tell me you you don't have anything to do with them
Bad mannered, bitchy, self centred and rude

CiaoForNiao · 06/10/2021 16:44

I was at a "girls get together" (yes I know MN hates girls as a term for women. No I don't care, that's what we always refer to it as) and we were discussing what we'd eaten and enjoyed recently. I said I'd had tomatoes on toast which is a favourite of mine. Another mum looked at me and said "awwww. That's called bruschetta. But I wouldn't expect someone like you to know that" Hmm
By "someone like you" she meant single mum on benefits. And it really wasn't bruschetta. It was a slice of brown bread with sliced tomatoes on shoved under the grill.

She also once told me to never invite her round for coffee if I only had instant in stock. I wasn't going to invite her anyway!

I'm so glad she moved away a few months later and I no longer have to put up with her patronising comments. (She had form for looking down on any one who didn't meet her standards.)

LagneyandCasey · 06/10/2021 16:46

There are some seriously hideous people in this world. Sorry you came across one op.

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