How long would you leave it?

[LetsTryThisAgain2]

A friend has owed me £300 for a few months now. She bought an item from me that cost £450 and I said £300 was okay. I did say pay when you can, which we decided would be when she got a fairly big payout from her ex (£40k+)

She's always mentioned the money and asked me if I'm sure about her paying me when the payout comes, I always said yes.

On Sunday I found out that she had received the money a few weeks beforehand. No mention of paying me (just that she needs to get her ISA's sorted) and me being a bit crap about these things didn't mention it.

Anyhow - this morning I bit the bullet and sent a friendly text and also asked if she could pay me now as I'd like to add the money to my savings. I asked if she needed my bank details (I know she has them!)

Radio silence. This is a friend who gets back to me within minutes and I know she's seen the message.

My question is - how long should I leave it before nudging her again? She read the message at 09:16 today.

Can you give her an out and suggest she return the item if she's no longer able to pay for it - tell her you really need the money now and will try and sell it elsewhere if she can't pay

She's being a CF though

@FooFighter99

Can you give her an out and suggest she return the item if she's no longer able to pay for it - tell her you really need the money now and will try and sell it elsewhere if she can't pay

She's being a CF though

This is an option I've put on the backburner - although I have said several times if she doesn't want it / has changed her mind just let me know and she insists she wants it.

I didn't want to put that option in my text this morning as I was hoping she would reply straight back with a "sorry Lets, I'll transfer the money to you now"

I'd give her a couple of days to respond. I know you say she normally responds immediately but chasing 6 hours later won't make a difference.

How did you find out she's already received the money?

@girlmom21

I'd give her a couple of days to respond. I know you say she normally responds immediately but chasing 6 hours later won't make a difference.

That's the sort of response I was hoping for - whether to leave it a couple of days or a week, etc.

I'm not going to chase it up today.

@PingoPingoPingoPingoPingoPong

How did you find out she's already received the money?

She told me on Sunday.

I would also say in your next contact that the money is not for your saving but that you need to money for something in particular.

The person who owes you money told you she has already received it? Is that right?

@PingoPingoPingoPingoPingoPong

The person who owes you money told you she has already received it? Is that right?

She's received the money from her ex that she's supposed to be using to pay the OP back.

Yes , I realise that but I’m confused who told the OP she had received the money?

@PingoPingoPingoPingoPingoPong

Yes , I realise that but I’m confused who told the OP she had received the money?

I saw my friend on Sunday and we were talking about her ExH. She said he’d finally paid her the divorce settlement and she needed to sort it out into savings, ISA’s and new kitchen.

I know I should have piped up about the money she owed me then but for some reason I held back. She was on a bit of a rant about her ex and child support.

Then I wouldn’t hold back , she’s avoiding the issue . Next it will be she can’t withdraw it without being penalised
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