Stay at home jobs

[Whatismynameagain]

Im currently on maternity leave and I want to know what jobs are available for stay at home mothers.

@Whatismynameagain

Yeah we can't really afford (yes I know we are silly

Not at all. We couldn't afford. That's why we didn't see much of each other until they were both at school! We had grandparents to help us. Is that an option?

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You don't need to say that, just bookmark where you are up to. Saves annoying everyone

Thank you onthinice I only wanted some advice yet people can be very snarky. We don't have any family to help us. It's all on the both of us. I will work once my husband has finished work and work one weekend day will ask my employer when I return to work

@Whatismynameagain

Thank you onthinice I only wanted some advice yet people can be very snarky. We don't have any family to help us. It's all on the both of us. I will work once my husband has finished work and work one weekend day will ask my employer when I return to work

Just ignore the snarky comments.

I think I'd ask your employer asap. I'd definitely do it before you start back to work. Do you have KIT days to work? Maybe give them some ideas of what hours you want to work and say you'll use your KIT days for a trial run

Thank you lst. I haven't been In touch for keep in touch as yet. I will have to discuss with them ASAP

This thread isn't full of snarky comments.
The OP has asked a question which people have answered.
People have been very patient considering how reticent she has been to accept that very few families live in this little bubble of being able to stay home with a baby and earn and have some sort of right to "family time" and being there every bedtime and never missing "anything" the baby does. It is just unrealistic, and hardly a surprise to anyone who has given it a moment's thought.

Yes people have been very patient with me. We are entitled to our opinions. I was merely asking for advice.

Yeah ideally every parent wouldn't want to miss out on anything they're child has done. Im suffering with separation anxiety atm and I don't want to think about leaving my child when I go back to work.

Even working from home you will need childcare most jobs would have a pretty major sense of humour failure about you looking after a child while working

Realistically you cannot work and care for a child at the same time. You can obviously work during naps but aside from that you would be neglecting them if you leave them alone

I'd say get some KIT (keeping in touch) days organised to get back into it gradually

Working from home with kids is impossible really and not ideal at all

Unless you registered as a childminder

Just to say I’m on maternity leave now - baby 6months and I’m just starting to go back now!

Ive an arrangement with employer to have a phased return - so I’m back now part time 8 hours a week just from home and building up to full time - the work I do is possible to do anytime in the day - once I get it done

I’m struggling to even find time to get that 8 hours done - my husband works all day at home too but he only takes the baby for half an hour on his lunch break and I’m rushing trying to get through my work -

I try do some work when she’s napping and then she wakes and interrupts everything

Then I end up doing it at 9 O clock at night when all I feel like doing is relaxing after a busy day minding my baby !

Then it’s on to a restless night getting up with the baby !

Zero time to relax!

Once I’m back 3 Days a week after Christmas - my baby is going to nursery as it’s just not sustainable!

I really think you either need childcare or to do what you say - evening shifts and weekends

I know you said you need to work but I suggest you make a spreadsheet of income and outgoings once maternity payments end if you stayed home and and how much if you used 2 days of childcare and worked either sat or Sunday- what is the difference?

I stayed at home because after childcare I wouldn't make any money. We managed by not having things like a car, fancy phone, gym membership etc and renting a tiny apartment

Childminder.

Care work in the evenings or weekends

@Whatismynameagain

Do you think it's possible for us to both work and my partner to look after the baby whilst work from home and me work in retail during the day. I want to be for my baby in the evenings for example bath and bed time

My dp works full time, I went back to work on 20hrs - luckily DP was able to ask his employer for flexible hours, so he works around my hours. So we both share childcare. We only have one day a week as a family though.

Can your DP work flexibly?

My partner can't work flexible. So I would just work when he isn't. As people have been saying it's like it for everyone when I said I want family time. We will have to make it work.

Great if you can get a working at home job that isn’t fixed hours - but most probably have core hours 9-5.30 or whatever so I’m not sure how you would just work when he isn’t - unless your job is cool with that !

OP - have you looked in to everything you are entitled to? What benefits and help with childcare costs that are available.

While normally your employer does different shifts, one of the flexible requests you can ask for is set hours to cover childcare, so you could have set hours of every Saturday for a long shift and set evenings.

Your dh would have to be clear with his employer he has certain days he's not available to work late - after I had dc1 dh shifted his day so started at 7:30am and finished at 4:30pm, meaning he could pick up from childcare 3 days a week.

Those saying look at childcare work are also giving good advice, a friend just does term time wrap around care for before and after school, meaning she has the bulk of the day just her and her DD.

OP, I know this advice isn't truly what you are looking for but it sounds like your anxiety is really impacting you. I think it's worth talking to your GP or health visitor about your anxiety and trying to find the right support to manage that so that you can have a clearer perspective on what to do about work.

Thank you very much for your replies. I've always suffered with separation anxiety mostly with my mum and partner and now my little baby. I haven't looked into what benefits we are entitled to

This thread does feel a bit...harsh?

Anyway, both myself and my good friend were single mums trying to work around our babies nap schedules and sleep times, we both took on transcription work (estate agents/inventory companies, I believe you can now use platforms such as fiverr or whatever it's called to find clients). It pays more than retail, you can do it when your baby is napping/sleeping and for both of us it led to good career progression.

You can type, you can spell, if your typing speed is quite low there are free websites to help you get your WPM up.

I also worked for a local milliner when my daughter was very small, she just used to hang out in the shop with us (sometimes asleep in a hat box)! Not sure if that's a thing that can happen these days!

Thank you for giving me advice on that. Tbh I've not heard of the work. I'll look into them

Do not go for companies like Rev. They are awful, find private clients if you can.

Thank you for your advice