HELP What am I turning into/ what the hell is wrong with

[Yankee63]

Didn’t know where to post, so just a general open discussion

I’ve recently been getting this feeling of like I can only describe as pent up anger ?
It’s like when say dp especially and maybe random people
When they mention something in conversation but then go on and on about it in great detail.
I start to get I don’t know like anger building up inside my body and the more they carry on the more this feeling intensifies especially with dp as he goes into great detail really when it could be said in say a few mins.
I find myself tensing up when he starts to talking thinking how longs this going to take as he goes into great detail where as I just say what needs to be said/explained
Another example is
He as hobbies what I call man hobbies that he says he’s passionate about
Motorbike, speedway , cars tennis
Like today a guy came to house to fix something
Before he’d got through the door the guy said I used to have one of those cars
Well dp started going on about the engine, how long he’d had it, how it ran, asked why he got rid of his, told him what he thought was wrong with it
The guy in the end said right where’s the sofa I come about
What should off been a relative 10 mins max job turned into a 5 min fix and 40 mins chat
With me getting wound up to the point I could feel panic raising inside me.

It’s worrying me, I know I’m not very tolerant but this is anything
I can’t seem to tolerate random people basically going into great detail when it’s not really relevant
I’ve told dp who will talk for hours and hours about his hobbies and knows I’m not the greatly interested, I will listen but I don’t want to know the ins and out of everything that’s happened.
He just doesn’t get it,I’ve tried to explain but he just gets annoyed then and say your never interested in my hobbies or what I gave to say
It’s because he goes either round and round and great detail that’s really not relevant

I do suffer chronic anxiety and this just raises it
I can’t get through to him how it winds me up how we can see somebody, conversation might include say a bike for example and the whole situation is turned into him talking about himself and his bike his car his job etc

It’s got to the point this morning when the guy was her that I really noticed myself !!
It frighten me the sensations I was getting

@Thesummeriwas16

Me too! I can't bear it when someone takes forever to tell you something that would take any normal person two seconds! I blame it on the menopause!! xx

Correction - not any normal person - ANOTHER person!!

I’ve lost 3 post today🤦‍♀️

Thank you everyone for your replies and time, I have read them all

We are both retired now, so he doesn’t see as many people. So I’m the closest that listens to his long drawn out crap.
I mentioned it when he came back from being out, he just said “ ok next time someone comes to the house I’ll go out”
Don’t need this answer as I suffer panic attacks, so that’s not helpful
What I should of said was “ no, just be bloody quite”

The thing is when I’m talking especially if he’s watching bikes or on his phone, I know for certain he’s not listening I can tell by his face so I just stop he then says “ what was you saying”
So infuriating,

I've got a friend in his early 50s who can do this to me....I get it Op...I have taken to just cutting him dead and buggering off elsewhere I can't listen to the same stories being told that he told me three days earlier verbatim. Long drawn out crap....that could be said in minutes.....I couldn't be married I'd go even further off my trolley....

...to him....that should read...

I have recently come to the conclusion that I must be peri-menopausal because I feel like this almost constantly. I’m on a permanently short fuse and a lot less able to stop myself saying things that should really only be confined to my head. My patience with (particularly male), waffling and droning on is zero. I thought it was just being in confinement with DP, but I was like it with my own family on a recent visit too. I’m just so over being nice and polite and indulging others to my own detriment the way women and girls are socialised to do. Fuck that shit.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. You're sick of listening to tedious stuff that doesn't interest you. Tell your DP and any other other boring fuck to zip it and go do/listen to stuff that you enjoy.

Ha ha ladies some off these made me laugh 😆
Just my sense off humour

If I tell him like your boring me with the same old
He will say “ your so rude and got no patience
NO I haven’t

I’m going to do what he does to me just say yes and the odd look up
Relationship will probably go down the pan !