I’m pregnant, my hormones are flying as it is so I’m struggling to differentiate between whether I’m being unreasonable lately. But today DP has done something that I called him out on and he thinks I’m trying to belittle him.
Last night we had curry, we ate late because DD didn’t go down for ages. I cooked and we decided to deal with the dishes and cleaning up this morning, all fine. We cleared up this morning but decided to leave the stove top as we’d just get it immediately dirty cooking today’s lunch. - Firstly I noticed DP started wiping down the work top with a wet wipe 
I asked him why he was bothering using a wet wipe and to just use hot soapy water with the sponges, he said he wasn’t going to and that’s how he always clears up… with a wet wipe. I thought this was pretty gross and asked him to please either use the spray or hot water; he huffed but I ignored it. Then when cooking dinner, he dropped a potato onto the stove top right onto a little apologetic of last nights curry sauce, he went to put the potato back into the water?! At this point I was thinking what on earth else does he do when he cooks and ‘cleans’ so I then said it was absolutely disgusting that he dropped it onto last nights debris and intended to put it back in the pot. He said the water would kill any germs and that by me calling him out made him feel small and shit. I didn’t even shout I just said I want him to understand how gross that is and to please think about what he’s doing while he’s cooking and cleaning and think if that’s how his food was treated in when we’re out would he eat it.
Now, I will fully take responsibility for the fact the stove was dirty because I didn’t see the point in wiping it down right before we cooked again, if I had done that then the dropped pot wouldn’t matter. But I just can’t get over the fact he thought it would be ok.
Am I just being hormonal and irritable (and lazy for not cleaning the stove!) 😂