Anyone else really need a win right now?

[idiotfacelicker]

I'm sitting here in tears because we as a family are looming from one thing going wrong to another and absolutely nothing positive on the horizon. I feel like our family is on the precipice of a free fall and I can't locate the brakes.

I won't list all the shit on here but please don't tell me "you sound anxious OP". Damn right I'm anxious, but not because I have a mental health problem but because there is so much to actually be anxious about.

We just need a small win of some kind. Something to make me smile and feel positive.

Anyone else feeling the same?

I was where you are now op a few years ago and I hear you. It was like everything that could go wrong, would go wrong. We couldn't turn around without it seeming to cost more money than we had.

We're ok now. Things have worked out somehow even though it seemed impossible back then.

I can't offer advice, and I doubt you want it but I hope you get your small win because I know it feels relentless.

Thank you for replying ditalini. Getting a reply to my post means a lot to me (my posts usually get lost in the mix and go ignored).

Im glad things worked out for you and you are in a better place

Yes exactly the same, by win do you mean financial ? I'm so worried about the extra costs coming in for me as a single mum, it's such a worry. A windfall would save my life right now !!

It sounds trite but it will pass
I remember the feeling, exhausted physically, financially and mentally. Treading water like fucking mad but achieving nothing.
It wears you down, acknowledge any tiny successes, whatever they are, eventually it will stabilise and you'll be able to breathe out.

@lollipoprainbow

Yes exactly the same, by win do you mean financial ? I'm so worried about the extra costs coming in for me as a single mum, it's such a worry. A windfall would save my life right now !!

Doesn't even need to be as big as a financial windfall. My husband may lose his job. At the moment maintaining the status quo would be a win. Husbands job is on the skids. Mine is fucking awful but I need to cling on to it even though I drive home in tears every day (although if I can't get fuel by Tuesday I won't be able to even go in which would be a positive except if I don't go in I don't get paid).

@idiotfacelicker my DH just got a new boss and he’s “restructuring” so DH is really worried about what will help.

It’s shit living like this isn’t it.

for you.

Happen! Not help

Wishing you lots of good thoughts! It's so hard when life starts to spiral but it will get better.

Oh l, I feel you.

Every year gets worse.

New Year’s eve fills me with dread because
i just think, what next? People tell me to be positive. That positive thinking brings good things.

How, pray tell, would positive thinking help my fathers rapidly deteriorating dementia? Or magic up money for help? Or solve my health issue? Or make dh job pay him what he deserves for the shit he does for them?

Life is shit.
But not as shit as people telling you you sound anxious, or depressed or if you just did this, or tried that. Because fuck sake, it doesn’t help, does it.

[quote CatrinVennastin]@idiotfacelicker my DH just got a new boss and he’s “restructuring” so DH is really worried about what will help.

It’s shit living like this isn’t it.

for you.[/quote]

Really hoping everything works out ok for your husbands job Catrin and that they don't drag it all out. My husbands situation has been dragged out and hanging over us since end of July!

Exactly Siri, nail on head!

@idiotfacelicker

Exactly Siri, nail on head!

I really, really hope you get a little bit of goodness soon. I really do.

Life is fucking tough.

I know how you feel its shite right now im on my way back from an unsuccessful outing with the kids something loads of kids woukd love but not mine nooo they want to bitch fight (actually punching each other) moan and complain I hit the roof and told them they were humiliating and should be embarrassed by there behaviour and we are catching a train home two hours early im soaked I'm annoyed and they don't care

I blame there mum she clearly did something wrong

Been there. It is very hard. Not sure there is much one can say to make it feel better because at the time it seems it is never going to get better and we'll meaning stuff can sound trite.

Yep, I'm in the same position. Health failing rapidly, my Job is very insecure, I don't know what else I could do for work due to failing health. One thing after another breaking at home, Dad diagnosed with cancer, my mental health is hanging by a thread. It just all feels so bleak.

I've developed a severe gum problems too and I'm losing my teeth losing my looks losing my fucking mind I just needed today to go right just once but no

My feet are so soggy right now im under my duvet quietly seething listening to the children once again arguing never happy at the moment

Yes I feel exactly the same .
The last 3 years have been dreadful .
I’m a very positive person but yet it’s hard to stay that way as it’s one thing after another . Bereavements and serious illness in the family plus a lot of other awful stuff .
About one month ago I decided to sit down for a rare evening of relaxation . I tripped over something and gave myself whiplash and knee injuries . Still in pain .
I’ve been in bed all this week with a bad chest infection . I’m never sick in bed .
Think I’m going to change my positive outlook to a more negative one as it’s not helping me 🤣
Seriously though , I hope that the OP and everyone else gets a break soon !

OP sorry it is so hard - I can’t pretend I understand what you are going through.

Feeling fortunate at the moment except for the job front. May be redundant in April next year. I know it’s a while off but still worried. It it happens will be lots of others, many more experienced looking for similar jobs.