My CM's husband has been arrested for child abuse

[GreatPotato]

He's accused of sending and eliciting explicit photos to/from 14yo girls and she looked after my boys when they were toddlers so I don't really think any harm came to DC but still absolutely shocking.

The CM is an old school friend of mine. We're not especially close but still in touch and this news is all over the local news and FB groups. I just can't begin to imagine what she's going through. Would you send a message of support or leave her to some privacy?

She's a TA at the school close to where she lives now, parents are absolutely up in arms. She has teenage daughters. This is going to be horrendous for her.

Or this article - www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/jul/31/the-knock-that-tears-families-apart-they-were-at-the-door-telling-me-he-had-accessed-indecent-images-of-children?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other

Yes, you should send a message. She probably needs some support and solidarity right now.

I would. Just saying if she needs anything to let you know. You might be the only person who reached out to her

Yes definitely message. How awful for her.

Send a kind message x

@Brainstorm21 I've just listened to this, it doesn't bear thinking about, it's shocking that there's no support for the family of perpetrators

Yes it is shocking. To not even know what your partner is charged with and get no support from anybody.

Poor woman, poor kids, and everyone who finds themselves in that position.

I really feel for her, it must be a total nightmare and I can imagine she must be very anxious that people will start avoiding her from now on because of what her husband has done. In your shoes I would definitely reach out to her and send her a message to let her know what’s going on and you’re there for her if she needs to talk.
I agree with pp about avoiding her if she stays with that despicable man but if she feels there are people willing to help her, it might actually motivate her even more to leave him because she knows she won’t be isolated from everyone, there are people who will support her. You can always start keeping her on arm lengths distance if she eventually decides to stay with him but for now I would choose to give her the benefit of the doubt and just be kind to her.

Poor woman, of course send a kind message. She must be in bits.

You are right about her position, the declaration applies only to Year R age and below, or at least this was the case few years ago.

This has happened to two friends of mine. Everyone was supportive. It won't affect her job unless she is still living with him.

He's not actually been tried yet though has he, so it could be a false accusation. Might be good to keep an open mind until the trial has taken place.

@antoniawhite

I would send a message. It might mean the world to her, because she'll find herself shunned by a good many people.

This. Her life must be hell right now.