Gone wobbly with job

[Yummypumpkin]

I've taken a job and three months in I'm miserable. Its just not a very good organisation. Everything is fudged / rushed/ standards are low.

I cannot express how my confidence and sanity has been hit as people with no qualifications or experience in my specialism override me, and are very patronising, oblivious to my past achievements...my function isn't valued here. It's not personal. It feels it.

The problem is after moving to a new sector I've had two jobs previous to this where I didn't stay long at all.

I need to stick this out.

How do I motivate myself? How do I get through this?

I'm just so, so frustrated and every day is like someone passing in my face.

I'm not God's gift...but I am good at my specialism and the multiple times a day disrespect (down to refusing to use my name) is hard for me.

Please help me get my mindset right to get through another year.

Life’s to short I’d look for something else

Why didn’t you stay long in the other two roles?

Wow you sound like me 9 months ago. I was in exactly the same situation, it really gets you down doesn't it!
Your work environment sounds quite toxic. From personal experience I would suggest looking for another job ASAP. I understand your predicament and it took me nearly a year to realise that you simply can't change other people you work with, all you can do is try and change yourself but.....why should you!!!
It sounds like your colleagues might be jealous of you? I don't know. There's no point trying to analyse their behaviour, it's not you it's them. I wish you the very best of luck but if you're worrying/stressing about it when you're not there, get out as soon as you can X

So, lower your expectations of being recognised and valued. Keep your head down and do your job well. Work out what the minimum politics and pointless but mandated stuff you need to do to get away with it and be effective. Seek any internal or external development opportunities to prepare for your next job applications in two years. Set some fun goals outside work to keep you motivated.

I think looking for something else is your best option under the circumstances you describe.

What do you mean people refuse to use your name?

Is there an HR department?

Was about to ask the same. Sounds like passive aggression to me

Also wanted to ask about your name not being used?

What is your line manager like, who hired you, what is the company ethics thingey?

Thank you soo much!!

To answer questions I'm on a maternity cover and people routinely say in group emails, "the maternity cover could pick this up".

I was working at a much more senior level, but to get to this sector, went down a level or two.

The outgoing (well not outgoing as she is coming back) set this precedent by naming all our handovers as "handover with the maternity cover".

They do know my name! But its become a nickname.

I left one job as I was an expat in a developing country during Covid. It was a great job. The second job I shouldn't have taken and I left quickly. I'm aware I seem flaky and my sound reasons won't communicate well.

Thanks to the poster for the survival tips...my gut says that is the way.

My line manager is good but weirdly in this organisation she doesn't have any experience in my specialism. She is supportive. I'm not sure how much she sees what is happening as she has a large remit. I can go to her for support but right now twice a day I'm so confused and stymied...I can't ask for support that often.

I did ask her if I should go and explained I feel there isn't a lot of understanding of my function.

She was v supportive but the problem is it's happening all the time and she doesn't build my profile but tucks me away. And I feel without being ego driven that the organisation needs to shift a bit.

Thanks again...I really thought everyone would think I was being an idiot. O was a Director working internationally. Now literally I am doing admin. My head is not great now.

@GoWalkabout

So, lower your expectations of being recognised and valued. Keep your head down and do your job well. Work out what the minimum politics and pointless but mandated stuff you need to do to get away with it and be effective. Seek any internal or external development opportunities to prepare for your next job applications in two years. Set some fun goals outside work to keep you motivated.

In light of ops updates I would do this.

Unfortunately you can't change a culture in such a short fixed term role.

Ergh. But you are right. Thank you.

I could have written your post not long ago. I recently left my job as a qualified AHP as the environment was so toxic that it was making me ill and depressed. Not sure I’ll ever go back now. Get out while you can.

How many years experience did you have before this latest period of jobs in quick succession? And what do you actually want to be doing?

Honestly, I’d look around… in my field it can take 2 years to find a good role, and if a company want your skills they won’t care about you moving around. Once you secure a job then what you did before that is not very relevant

Otherwise what GoWalkabout says is good advice

Just take the money and the best you can. Sign off from Maternity Cover aka yummypumpkin. It is only for a year. Be clear with your advise so it is documented when you are overridden. It is a means to an end.
Look for your next big role.