Who’s right over making a home a home?

[Mudday]

A couple I know are arguing about love and creating a home together, and appear to be in a petty standoff. One is saying they will tidy up the house when they feel loved enough to make it a real home; and the other says if it’s tidy enough first then they’ll show love. So which comes first? Loving or tidying?

It’s a nice thought, but no. Single people tidy too. It’s just being an adult - although I accept people’s definitions of what constitutes ‘tidy enough’ vary. A pp comment about puberty really didn’t miss the mark

But we are talking about a relationship here aren't we?
My answer was talking about how things work in the context of a relationship

I'll rephrase it though ...

"I think tidying, cleaning, cooking and washing has everything to do with real love. Real love being about respect for your partner, hard work, consistency, doing the boring stuff, self discipline. You do it for yourself and both do it for each other. They both have to get off their backsides and start!*

Just fucking tidy the house and love each other, or accept you’re too busy to tidy (as poster above, with FT jobs and small children), it’s not rocket science.

Whichever one said that they won't tidy until the other has earnt it through showing love is a controlling and lazy arse.

@Whatiswrongwithmyknee

Whichever one said that they won't tidy until the other has earnt it through showing love is a controlling and lazy arse.

More so than the one withholding love on the basis the house is untidy? Interesting priorities...

Qué?

@Justmuddlingalong

Puberty might improve things.

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@Justmuddlingalong

Puberty might improve things.

Hear hear.