Tell me it won't matter - Wedding

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I'm probably going to sound really vain. That it's all self-inflicted and woe is me.

But I'm getting married in early next year....I've had plenty of time to lose weight before now, but with postponing, lockdown etc., it's not really felt really real until now...

Excuses excuses...I've picked up slimming world again and hopefully will have lost 1.5 stone before my fitting...and then maybe another 1 before the wedding...big numbers but still far away from where I should be.

Will it matter? I'm not losing weight 'for the wedding' and will be continuing to lose after the day (honeymoon excluding!) but it's obviously a big event that I'm annoyed at myself that I'm not 'slim' for.

I'm sure I'll be fine on the day...but will I look back on the pictures and think differently about how I looked...? Was anyone else a larger bride...and how did you feel about your photos after?

There's obviously very little I can do, other than not give up with weight loss, and what will be will be...although any hints on exercise that might actually make a difference in 2/3 months would be great!

I feel so vain that I'm worrying about what I'll look like...simultaneously thinking its too late and 1-2 stone before then isn't going to make a jot of difference, while attempting to convince myself i really will notice on the day and I have to keep at it.

You can easily lose stone by then if you want to.

Sorry pressed send too soon.

Meant to say you could easily lose two stone by then if that's your target.

I tried to lose weight before my wedding. I did lose about a stone and a half and felt really happy with how I looked about 3 months before the wedding. But then I had various hen parties, the world opened up from lockdown and I started going out more for meals and drinks and I did lose a bit of motivation. When I look back on my wedding photos I don't feel like I look fat. I pick apart my appearance a bit, like oh my hair looked shit in that photo or my make up had smudged off there but I honestly can't say I feel too strongly about my size. Do I wish I looked like I did 3 months prior? Maybe. Did I enjoy myself in those months leading up to the wedding? Definitely!

Do your best if it's important to you but it's not the be all and end all. You don't sound vain either, it's a big day and of course you want to look your best. I do think losing a bit will help your confidence but I don't think you should lose sight of the true meaning of the day or make yourself miserable by trying to lose weight at such a special time. Oh and Slimming world will give you quick results but it won't last once you come off the plan. I've fallen into that trap before!

Good luck.

Personally, exercise was good but I didn't lose any weight until I cut down my portion sizes/ started eating a bit less crap.

A fitbit might help - as long as you're moving (hoovering, walking, dancing etc) and not sat on your backside (this is my problem! ) you will be burning calories.

It won’t matter one tiny little bit.

I had a similar target to you, lost a stone, stalled, lost a bit more, had my fitting - gained a bunch of it back so my dress had to be let out .

Ultimately my husband thought I looked beautiful, I had a wonderful day, and we’re still married. I have lots of lovely photos to look back on despite the fact I didn’t get to the ‘ideal weight’ for a bride.

I 100% get where you’re coming from but my god it pisses me off that societal expectations have us fretting about this sort of stuff.

Congratulations on your impending nuptials!

You’ll still feel amazing on the day if you’ve lost weight and toned up through exercise!

Thank you! @gailplattshairbrush I think you're right...its not so much the weight itself but having lost even some I'll feel more confident, and that will probably show in the photos.

Sure the photographer will delete the really unflattering before he presents them!

@Bobsyer I've tried not to fret! Fortunately haven't done anything like order a size down (if anything it was probably a bit big...but its been over a year since I last wore it so...??).

While the dress shops themselves have been really positive in making you feel beautiful, everywhere else assumes you're losing for your day...and that its somehow a point in time to refer to as your ideal weight.

Will your husband lose a lot of weight too for the big day ?
Don't worry about it , it's only a day. It's the rest of your life that is much more important.