What have you told your 5yr old about 'stranger danger' etc

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DS knows that private parts are private and that people shouldn't ask to see it. He knows it's called a penis although he doesn't call it that.

I feel like I should be telling him not to go off with strangers and to tell mummy if anyone essentially tries to groom him but I don't want to scare him (he's sensitive and he will ask more questions)

What have you told your children?

I didn't know alexa could make phone calls @HeyFloof ! That's so useful to know, I've always wondered how to teach him to call 999 when we only have mobile phones - thanks so much!

(And thanks to everyone else, I'm really appreciative)

At 5 the children knew how to dial 999 and ask for the right service and say their address.
They knew that if they were lost they should find a mummy with children and ask for help.
They knew that if a stranger grabbed them or tried to get them to go along then they were allowed to scream and bite and kick and hit.
Finally they knew that they were not allowed to get into any car that wasn’t Mummy or Daddy’s car unless Mummy or Daddy had said they could.

I tell mine that good grown ups will never ask them to keep a secret from their parents. And that if anyone ever tells them not to tell me something, on the contrary they must tell me right away. They are never under any circumstances allowed to have secrets from me (I draw a distinction between secrets and 'surprises' - it's OK to keep something nice quiet for a little bit so that it is a surprise, like not telling Dad what he is getting for his birthday present, but it's not OK to have a secret that you will never tell).

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I didn't know alexa could make phone calls *@HeyFloof* ! That's so useful to know, I've always wondered how to teach him to call 999 when we only have mobile phones - thanks so much!

(And thanks to everyone else, I'm really appreciative)

You have to set 999 as a contact in your linked phone. And to confirm, we've never actually tried it, thankfully! So it might be a better idea to teach him how to Alexa call your emergency contact in the first instance.

I bought a couple of books.

One called My Tricky Eye Spy, about tricky adults and safe adults and another called My Underpants Rule.

We read them a couple of times a week.

@HeyFloof - we just practiced calling me on it but I'll test out the options and see what it can do. Thanks again.

I think my concern is him asking more about these things which I know he will. He will want to know why someone would want to touch under his pants, or why someone would try to take him. Or what 'tricky' grown ups would do and that's the point that I get stuck.