My husband is great, he cooks a lot (it's his hobby - says it relaxes him) and he's great with our LG, we have another on the way this year.
My husband will plan days throughout the year to go fishing or nights /day out with his friends and he's generally the organiser.
Obviously with lockdown this didn't happen and with new baby coming along I totally get it, we didn't go out as a couple either and anytime we do now, it is me initiating it, I organise it and he always likes it when we go out.
Am I being really spoilt / selfish to ask him to make the effort to do something to surprise me for us to do together for my birthday coming up, he has a fishing trip the day before my birthday so I think he will be exhausted on my birthday, (I don't care that it wouldn't actually be on my birthday) but I would love to just feel like the same effort has gone into us spending time together as he would for a fishing / day out with his mates.
& if this isn't too much to ask, how would you ask it without it coming across like a criticism?