Simple plans made complicated by others

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My main group of friends seem unable to just go with a plan. Everyone has to throw their ideas into the mix and then the whole thing becomes unworkable because they are then pissed of if their suggestion can’t be accommodated. But they don’t want to accommodate other suggestions and neither do they want to get involved in the extra planning that their idea creates.

Drives me insane.

This applies to anything. Play dates, meals, weekends away.

Actually makes me think it’s a strategy to make the whole thing not happen. I often wonder if it’s because we’re not really that bothered anymore, and if we were, it would all be straightforward and easy.

@Candleabra that is exactly what the person I know is like! Won't usually suggest anything else or better to do but has the attitude of 'entertain me'. Then it takes ages for her to come up with a gap in her diary for when she's 'free' (she's soooooo busy....apparently!) then the time has to be changed to suit her and her hectic schedule.

I just don’t get the need to make things more complicated than they need to be. Life can be a right shit. Why not just keep things simple and go along with the plan? No one wins any prizes or credit or glory for their suggestions, and in fact it has the opposite effect - just makes them look like uptight control freaks.

Can you tell I’m really peeved?!

I’ve always felt a group chat is the worst place to initiate a plan. Too many opinions, suggestions, alternatives and variations pop up that wouldn’t if you were sat face to face or discussing it over a phone call.

I appreciate not everyone can be on the phone call at once but even a coffee date to discuss a weekend away and finalise it there and draw a line. Honestly hate group chats when people are so difficult.