What age did your DC start putting themselves to bed?

[HaggisTheGreat]

Just that really. At what age did they no longer want/need a good night hug/kiss, song, story etc and just went to bed of their own accord? And did they instigate it or did you?

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DD is 11 and still likes us to go up and turn off his light and have a good night hug.

DC1 was 13. Still putting DC2 to bed at 11.

My ds is 14..
He often comes and watches tv in my room then goes off to bed.

Once he could read himself stories stopped but had kiss cuddle still in fact most nights still does

My nearly 13 year old gets told to clean her teeth and then I go to bed, she is a night owl and I can't stay awake much last 9.30pm. She reads for a while, she is always up bright and early for school so she can't stay up too late.

DD is 10 and the only thing she wants us to do at bedtime is help her dry her hair with the hairdryer after her shower, she's quite happy to read in bed alone for a bit and put her own light out, been doing it for a few months.

Early secondary school.

My 14yr old DS still likes me to go in to him at bedtime to straighten his covers and "tuck him in". I give him a kiss and he turns his own light out after reading for 20 mins.

Mine are late teens and I still go in and kiss them goodnight every night.

About 8 or 9 I think. I can't say we were ever big on night time routine though and our dc would often go to bed to play or read and we would pop up to tuck them in at one point in the evening.

It was a gradual process, at 5 and 7 they went into bunkbeds in one room together (having had separate rooms previously). From then it was easier to read to them both in our bed and they used to head off by themselves after that, I never followed them through unless I needed to pop clean laundry into their room or similar. They moved back to separate rooms a couple of years later but we carried on with stories in our bed then head off to their rooms until they were probably about 11 and 13. I don't remember ever really doing much tucking in and kissing goodnight once they could physically get into bed by themselves TBH but we did have lots of cuddles and chat while reading, we also used to play card games all in bed together, happy days. Now they are older teens they come in and chat to me once I've gone to bed which is lovely (DH tends to come up later).

Mine will put themselves to bed but tbh they prefer me or DH to put them down. By that I just mean they like one of us in the room to say goodnight and turn the light off.

Nearly 10 and nearly 13.

DD is just 9 and takes herself up. Showers dries her hair then goes to bed. I pop in to give her a kiss when I go to bed about 9.30 bit she's usually asleep by then

Dd 12 puts herself to sleep since she was 10. Ds who is 10 still has us settling him to be. Ds who is 15 wants loads of snuggles before bed! They're all so different in that regard.

From about 9/10 DS would go up to bed and have a bath (always liked a bath rather than a shower) & put himself to bed, DH or I would pop up just to say goodnight.

I still go in to my 11 year old! It’s the only time of the day I get a proper chat with him without one of his siblings swinging off me/trying to tell me about something/fighting each other.

He realistically could put himself to bed though, and I don’t have to do anything just a chat and goodnight so not sure that counts as such.

9 year old gets ready himself but then when he's ready for bed, one of us goes up for a cuddle

DD10, she gets herself ready, reads, and then we normally listen to a podcast together (she likes history ones) and then I give her a kiss and she goes to sleep.

School nights she’s asleep around 8.

It’s a nice opportunity for us to have a chat about stuff.

Ds1 us just 11 and he's started having an extra half hour to himself downstairs while I read to Ds2. He sometimes listens in but mostly just read to himself now. Lights out is 9pm for him. And he likes to know an adult is floating around upstairs so I save laundry folding and such for that time and potter about.

Mine are 11, 13 and 15.

The 11yo gets a cuddle and a story most nights. I love this time and won't be stopping it until he doesn't want it any more!

The 13yo still wants one of us to come upstairs and give her a kiss. The 15yo doesn't.

@Fantail

DD10, she gets herself ready, reads, and then we normally listen to a podcast together (she likes history ones) and then I give her a kiss and she goes to sleep.

School nights she’s asleep around 8.

It’s a nice opportunity for us to have a chat about stuff.

That's lovely

I think late primary to take themselves up, brush teeth and get into bed to read. Then at a set time we would go up and kiss them goodnight and they would turn off their lamps.

I would say secondary for the kiss and hug before they went up. We just had a lights off time which they rarely went past.

early teens, I suppose