Life passing by

nobodyelsewill · 2021-09-25T19:10:12+00:00

I'm single and feel I am destined to be like this forever which scares me, I just seem to meet idiots seem to attract them, just lately been thinking of the future and feel I will grow old alone I'm the youngest of my siblings so I will probably go last, I have friends but they have partners to look after them, I have grown up children but not ever so close to them and worry they won't want to look after me when I'm old does anyone else feel like this?

Whentheydontmeanwhattheysay · 25/09/2021 20:45

I don’t think you should want your children to look after you tbh.
I’ve seen how difficult caring for DGM was in her last years for my DM. I wouldn’t want to burden my DC in that way but that’s by the by.

How old are you that you are worrying about not meeting someone and growing old alone? Where do you meet those ‘idiots’?

I do worry about struggling, DH has problems which mean he will die young, I’m already struggling with health issues and I am already wondering how long it will be before I need to live in a bungalow. I’m pretty much resigned that I will be alone tbh. DM lives alone & has done for 25 years, DGM was also alone for 30 years but did have DM helping towards the end before finally going in a home.
I’m pretty sure I will just end up alone then in a home tbh. I try not to think about it. I could always get hit by a bus next week or choke on a spring roll.

I’m sure meeting someone new during the pandemic is challenging, I hope you find someone

Explosivefarts · 25/09/2021 20:46

I don’t want my children to look after me when I’m old . Why would you expect them to do that ?

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nobodyelsewill · 25/09/2021 20:51

Just thought that was the norm that your kids look after you when you are alone I don't mean full on caring just getting to the shops and stuff if I can no longer walk far

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Mariell · 25/09/2021 20:53

Bit hard for our children to do that as they don’t live anywhere near us!

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nobodyelsewill · 25/09/2021 20:53

@Whentheydontmeanwhattheysay

I don’t think you should want your children to look after you tbh. I’ve seen how difficult caring for DGM was in her last years for my DM. I wouldn’t want to burden my DC in that way but that’s by the by.

How old are you that you are worrying about not meeting someone and growing old alone? Where do you meet those ‘idiots’?

I do worry about struggling, DH has problems which mean he will die young, I’m already struggling with health issues and I am already wondering how long it will be before I need to live in a bungalow. I’m pretty much resigned that I will be alone tbh. DM lives alone & has done for 25 years, DGM was also alone for 30 years but did have DM helping towards the end before finally going in a home.
I’m pretty sure I will just end up alone then in a home tbh. I try not to think about it. I could always get hit by a bus next week or choke on a spring roll.

I’m sure meeting someone new during the pandemic is challenging, I hope you find someone

I'm 46 and I've done online dating don't really want to do that again just keep meeting losers

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Explosivefarts · 25/09/2021 20:56

@nobodyelsewill

Just thought that was the norm that your kids look after you when you are alone I don't mean full on caring just getting to the shops and stuff if I can no longer walk far

Oh ok I don’t think you can depend on that either your children could move away etc. Are you religious at all? I know my own mother has lots of social things to attend with her church . It is a scary thought to be on your own but I doubt that will be the case . When you stop looking these things happen naturally. Lots of luck OP

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nobodyelsewill · 25/09/2021 20:59

That's what scares me if they did move away but I would never stop them from living their lives just really scared of ending up alone

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AbsolutelySure · 25/09/2021 21:24

Yep it scares me, I want to meet someone to share my life with but I don't find people attractive and it can take a while of having a friendship before I become attracted to someone. I haven't tried OLD because of this and I don't particularly like being out in pubs etc so I'm aware I'm going to struggle.

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nobodyelsewill · 25/09/2021 21:38

@AbsolutelySure

Yep it scares me, I want to meet someone to share my life with but I don't find people attractive and it can take a while of having a friendship before I become attracted to someone. I haven't tried OLD because of this and I don't particularly like being out in pubs etc so I'm aware I'm going to struggle.

Just feel so lonely I work and interact with people there but then I come home to just every evening on my own just wondering lately is this all life has to offer me

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 25/09/2021 21:39

No. I don't place my worth on whether or not I have a partner.

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nobodyelsewill · 25/09/2021 21:42

@Waxonwaxoff0

No. I don't place my worth on whether or not I have a partner.

But don't you feel like you want to spend your life with someone? especially as you get older I'm presuming you are single

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Strangevipers · 25/09/2021 21:46

You are ONLY 46, if you were 86 and looking I could understand your worry! Don't panic, if you want to find someone you will. You have plenty of time

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nobodyelsewill · 25/09/2021 21:48

@Strangevipers

You are ONLY 46, if you were 86 and looking I could understand your worry! Don't panic, if you want to find someone you will. You have plenty of time

But I don't seem to meet anyone well I do but I really don't want to go back on online dating

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