It's my birthday - feeling a bit low

[thepastisanothercountry]

(name changed)

Never really liked my birthday as without going into detail something very nasty happened to me when I was 9 and I tend to get nasty flashbacks.

This year I thought I'd really put in some effort to make it special and try to make better memories so took the day off, invited a couple of friends for lunch and organised myself a small family party for tomorrow.

I've had no presents, no one appears to have remembered except DD who did give me a hug and say happy birthday and my mum who sent me a whatsapp and after I spent ages making a lovely lunch, both friends cancelled - one has covid, other didn't give a reason just said she couldn't come.

I know I'm in my mid 40s and shouldn't expect much but even a box of chocolates grabbed from the supermarket would have been nice. Instead I'm sat here with the cats and the house is a mess and now I've got to plan for tomorrow and almost wishing I'd never organised it :(

Sorry just whinging I should grow up and act my new age

I wonder if because you haven't made a fuss in the past people don't realise that you'd like them to? I do know how you feel, my birthdays are always rubbish because it's Xmas and people forget and are busy. But your family remember and that's what's important. Happy birthday! 🎂

Sorry you're feeling low. Just wanted to say Happy Birthday! 🎈

You're probably right, it's been a long time since I bothered.

I'm not even sure DS (9) knows it is my birthday and dp has yet to mention it.

Think Ive got a UTI as well to add to my woes.. damn it I'm going to go and gorge on the lovely pasta I made for lunch and round it off with a big portion of chocolate mousse - it IS my birthday

Happy birthday, its mine today too 🎈

Happy Birthday OP that's rotten luck about the lunch cancellation, try not to let it define the day, focus on having a great time tomorrow & rope in DP & DC to help...

Happy Birthday! 🥂

Happy birthday @Chocolatemushrooms all the best people are born on the 24th September :) I hope you have a lovely day

So sorry you're not having a special day OP..

Happy birthday to you! 🥳🎊🎈

Can you tell your DP that you'd like to go out for a nice tea? Get a birthday cake on the way home?

If not, I'd give all the family a heads up that you'd like to celebrate it next year. I know people think adults shouldn't care about birthdays but I do, it's nice to feel special for one day in the midst of all the crap we have to deal with 😬

I’m really sorry you have been let down on your birthday. I hope your do makes a fuss of you tonight. Your guests tomorrow will probably arrive with presents, try to do something nice for yourself today.

Happy Birthday 🥳 birthday

Why don’t you announce to your family that it’s your birthday so let’s pop out and get a cake/ingredients for a cake and flowers for mummy.
Maybe they’d like to draw you a birthday card and give you birthday hugs?
Then next year they’ll know that it’s your birthday and there’s an expectation to celebrate it.

Happy Birthday

Aw happy birthday 🎂
Try to enjoy the rest of your day and I hope you have a lovely party tomorrow

Happy Birthday OP!!🥳🎂🎈🎊

Hope you have a lovely day , and maybe forget the plans with friends and arrange it for another day? And just spend your actual birthday celebration with your family?

And treat yourself , you deserve it OP

Happy birthday .

Mine was on Monday as although I must admit some people around me did make an effort, it sucked as it was the first since losing my dad.

I hadn't given it any though but it hit me like a ton of bricks and I still feel shite.

I'm in my mid forties too if it makes you feel any better...I'd like to have gone 'out out' and having a partner to spoil me a bit would've been nice.

I am very envious of your chocolate mousse!!!

@thepastisanothercountry Happy birthday!!!!!!
I totally get where you are coming from believe me! I really do. It got to the point I dreaded my birthday every year because no one would remember snd I knew I would feel sorry for myself. Then one year I just thought - fuck it!!! I can continue every year feeling this way or move on. I chose option 2. You can too!!! It is totally shit no one remembered yes of course it is. But it’s your special day. Don’t let others spoil it for you. Do what you want. Eat a load of crap, drink too much, don’t put the wash on or do any housework - you know what I mean. Just do something that makes you happy!!!!
@Chocolatemushrooms happy birthday to you too 😁

Happy birthday OP

I hope tomorrow’s party is fun 🎈

It's not unreasonable to want a fuss OP.

Many happy returns 🎈🎁🎈🎁

Happy birthday!

Can you make yourself a nice cake? Is your daughter at an age where she can decorate it with you?

I’m a lone parent so I’ve had some pretty “flat” birthdays over the years. Is there anything you normally enjoy on a Friday e.g tv or podcast? Chips for tea??

Sorry, just seen you’ve got a partner. He can get the chips!

Happy birthday @thepastisanothercountry and @Chocolatemushrooms

Happy birthday!

Where are you? If you are local to me I'd happily drop round some chocolates and a bunch of flowers

When DP gets home, if he doesn't mention it make sure you do. If hes been shitty enough to forget this year he sure as hell won't next year!

Oh dear! Sorry you are having a rubbish day! Pour yourself a glass of something, things will be better tomorrow!!

Happy Birthday OP!

Its my birthday today too and I'm also feeling a bit meh about it, I think its getting worse the older that I get to be honest.
I can't even do anything fun as DH is away with work, DM has gone away for the weekend so no babysitter and anyway DS1 has covid so no-one can come to mine anyway.
I'm going to order an indian later and me and the kids can stuff ourselves in front of netflix!

Hope you have a lovely time tomorrow