I need to talk…can you help me turn this around?

[NoWigNoWit]

I’ve had the most shittiest week.

I can’t go into too much detail but I’ve been knocked sideways by a business partner (nasty venomous emails detailing everything I’m shit at..:cc’ing the partners in…emailing everyone but me about projects we’re all working on, etc). We can’t part as we’re two teams of husband and wife, too much time and money has been invested and we’re just starting to turn a corner with the business.

I suffer from mental health issues, and have done for a while now. I’m really really struggling to see the light at the moment and how on earth I’m going to continue working with two of the most difficult people I’ve ever met.

How do I become positive? How do think..”Ok, she hates me but that’s not my problem” and crack on with my work?

DH has been really supportive, but I feel so low….probably the lowest I’ve ever felt.

Does anyone have any coping mechanisms to help me please? I’m desperate…

Thanks x

She’s laid her cards on the table and she expects you to be upset, but you don’t have to do what she says. Imagine you are putting a mask on when you go to work and when you have to encounter her. Stony faced. No emotion. Just do the job.

Avoid her as much as possible and look for an exit route - can you take another job and employ someone to cover your role?

(I’m really sorry this is happening)

Thanks @greensteps - I haven’t risen or responded to any of it and I think that’s wound her up.

She took it upon herself to leave the office, taking everything with her so she now works from home. Everyday she does something so I bite, which I haven’t but my god it’s horrible.

I think I would have to leave. Surely you will have to, sooner or later? I don't think I could do it to myself to work somewhere with such grief and conflict.

Would you somehow lose what you had invested on the business if you left?

Who are these partners? Can you work on them to sack the horrid colleague?

How much of a support is your husband?

I find that when I don't know what to do doing nothing is best
Sit on your hands, carry on doing what you need to do
You'll give her no reason to pursue her nastiness ans if she does people will notice
The answer will come to you if you just sit it out
It's shit but your nonreaction is not what she will be expecting

You can spend the next how many years putting up with her bullying or you can stop it by walking away. Which would be better for your mental health?

I would think about bringing in a business coach for some mediation. It's unworkable otherwise and despite your trying to remain upbeat, she has personally attacked you which will affect your relationships.
Maybe try taking the view that she must be deeply unhappy somehow and that is being directed at you in an unhealthy manner. If she needed to vent her spleen then there are other more boundaried and professional ways to go about it.