What is wrong with him?

[Morgysmum]

So my partner, thinks my sons room is right for a teenager. My ds is 14, he has a load of soft toys, but has other toys too. My partner is going on about sorting ds room out, and basically if he had it his way getting rid of all his toys, including the lego and just leaving my son with his bed, bookcase and Chester draws.
This is horrible in my eyes and leaves me wondering, how fuxxed up was my partner's child hood.
Sure we could scale back on the soft toys, but most years we have clear out of toys, near Christmas.
When I moved house with my parents at 20,i still had some child hood toys, Care bears and trolls. But I made the decision to get rid of them myself. I guess my mum probably cleared out some of my toys when I was younger. But she didn't take them all away and say grow up, you are a teenager now, act like it.
I just don't get why my partner thinks my son is too child like. He has been obssed about him not doing normal things, like going on a roller-coaster at 10, my partner did at this age, so my son should, he always goes, well I was doing stuff like that at his age, I have pointed out, that our son isn't his dad, we all develop at our own pace.

Your partner sounds like a tool. Your DS will get rid of his toys when he's ready.

Your partner is quite plainly embarrassed. This is his son’s (I assume) private space, if it wants it filled with Lego and teddies then I can’t see the problem and I would tell him so.

It’s nice for a boy his age to still want some of his childhood stuff around. How depressing to say a 14 year old can only have his furniture around (including a chest of drawers ).

Tell him so long as the room isn’t a festering pit of revolting then he can have it how he likes.

DP should keep out of DS's very harmless private affairs.

Remind him that it's not about what he thinks is right. It's what your son thinks is right, and if he likes his room how it is then that's what matters.

I have a 16yo ds who still has a couple of teddies in his room. One in particular he says he will never get rid of.

My dad recently said the same about my younger sons room. Claiming its "girly" for them to still have so many teddies. Then me and my sister both pointed out that my dad also has teddies. They're the collectors kind, but still, he still has them. That sharp shut him up lol.

I suspect the toys give your son pleasure and happiness unlike your partner?

It's his bedroom not a prison cell / boot camp. DP gets no day what's in it. Does he think your so will catch the gay if he has teddies & Lego?

Cheater draws 😬

If your DP wants to treat your DS more like an adult, then he actually needs to butt out of his business…

Is your partner your son's father? Not that it really matters, he's still an ignorant prick.

@Ohshittt

Cheater draws 😬

*Chester draws 🤣🙈

This is Avery very strange post op

You don’t once tell us your son’s stance on it

But irrelevant in one sense

No one tells me how to parent my son or what is good for him

My dd is 18 and can't sleep without some teddies and dolls on her bed. She's not an immature 17, she just likes her teddies. They make her happy and I don't really care. Ignore your partner.

@Ohshittt

Cheater draws 😬

Did your trolls live in the Chester draws?

Effing Chester draws!!!

Cheater draws!!!!

Just here for the chester drawers comments 👍

@YerAWizardHarry01

Just here for the chester drawers comments 👍

Facebook market place, anyone? 😆

@Ohshittt

Cheater draws 😬

Chester draws in the wild!

@YerAWizardHarry01

Just here for the chester drawers comments 👍

Always improves my day!

I would have serious doubts about a man with this attitude.
Your sons bedroom is none of his business anyway.

Don’t be mean.

OP, it’s chest OF drawers.

I had a friend who thought it was peddlestool. Do what you will with that info.

We’ve still got our teddies here. 2 late teens, 1 mid 40s.

The teddies will probably migrate to the loft/local hospice/chatiry shop at some point but that should be when he wants them to and will probably be when/if he starts having friends over.

Mine did when I started doing what teenage boys do best. I didn't like them watching me (neither the teddies or my friends)!

There is an advert on YouTube where a teenage boy invites his friend over and then walks into his bedroom and sees his ‘childish’ looking wallpaper and he quickly tells his friend not to come round!

The scene cuts to him and his father painting or wallpapering over (I can’t remember which) and making the room look a little more grown up.

His friend comes round and they sit on the bed and are playing x box/PlayStation and in walks dad carrying a cuddly toy which he hands to his son saying something along the lines of - “Here’s Mr Snuggles” who was obviously taken out of the room during the redecoration and the boy pretends the cuddly toy isn’t his whilst his dad and his friend laugh!

I think it’s an ad for B&Q.

Basically, your son will know when it feels right to get rid of all or some of his cuddly toys.

However, I do think it’s important that he understands that having a lot of possessions/toys does require him to keep his room as tidy as possible.